Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

Travelling solo

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Dear English-speaking readers, this page is an automatic translation made from a post originally written in French. My apologies for any strange sentences and funny mistakes that may have been generated during the process. If you are reading French, click on the French flag below to access the original and correct text: 

"And you're going on your own? Oh, I could never do that! » If you only knew how many times I've heard these phrases...

For many people, traveling solo is inconceivable, especially if you are a woman. That's right... 🙄 I can hardly understand why. On the contrary, it's a chance to be able to go alone. And for my part, I find a lot of advantages in it.

So what if I'm a girl?

My shadow on the sand, in Nusa Lembongan. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
My shadow on the sand, in Nusa Lembongan. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

When I talk around me about my solo escapades at the end of the world, I have the impression that I am often mistaken (as you wish) for a super brave amazon or for a not very normal, borderline asocial girl. No half measures... 🤪 People are weird.

It seems that mentalities have not changed much since the past centuries! Even today, in the XXIe These spontaneous reactions leave me wondering. Shouldn't a woman travel without a chaperone?

So yes, I am a woman and I am going alone. There is nothing extraordinary or incomprehensible about that. I'm not going to give up the pleasure of discovering new horizons, just because I'm not a man and I don't have anyone to accompany me? Right?

I have done a lot of trips, with all kinds of company: a lover, someone from my family, a girlfriend, a group (more rarely)... But for several years, I have been traveling almost systematically solo. I have really taken a liking to it. I love to go alone.

It's not difficult or risky. It's not sad or unhealthy. In fact, it's just the opposite!

Alone but not lonely

Small party between divers, one evening, in Tioman. Malaysia, July 2006.
Small party between divers, one evening, in Tioman. Malaysia, July 2006.

Those who have never tried it may not realize it, but solo travel is rarely synonymous with solitude. You never meet as many people as when you travel alone.

This is even more true when you practice an activity like divingIt's an easy way to socialize around a common passion. When you spend a whole day on a boat with other divers, it creates links. Often, we meet again in the evening for a drink or for dinner...

In general, people, whether tourists, expatriates or locals, come to you more easily and engage in conversation when they see that you are alone. So much so that it even becomes difficult to enjoy moments of solitude when you seek them out! 😄

I see myself on the island of Tiomanin Malaysia. That evening, I had declined an invitation to have dinner with my diving companions, wanting to finally have some time to myself to write in my little notebook, without being disturbed. As a result, the waiter of the restaurant where I hung out couldn't help but come and chat with me after his service. The kind of guy I classify as a "nice guy". Harmless, but a bit of a pain in the ass. In these cases, my notebook is a formidable weapon: I explain that I have work to do, I play it cool travel writer very busy with lots of things to write, and the guy, impressed, then leaves me to my "work"... 😂

Thus, during my stay in Pemuteran (Bali) in 2008, I did not spend an evening alone. One time, in a tiny local restaurant where there was a lack of tables, it was a couple of very charming Germans who offered me to come and sit with them and we spent a pleasant evening chatting. Another evening, it was an American couple with whom I had been diving during the day who insisted on having me at their table. The next day, it was the Balinese who ran the mini-mart near my guesthouse who invited me to the party they were organizing for the marriage of their son

And then, there are people who become friends during the trip. In Malaysia, from Perhentian Kecil to Tioman, I had the pleasure to meet Maz and AlexBritish people who were on a humanitarian trip to New Zealand. À Sipadan (Borneo), it is with my diving partner Sabrinawho was also traveling solo, that I liked.

AT Sulawesiit is all Dutch family met in the Makassar-Rantepao bus who became fellow travelers and friends, for a good part of my journey, to the islands Togian. Still in Sulawesi, it is with Spanish couple, very nice, Joseba and Ana, that I made motorcycle trips in the villages and rice fields of the country Toraja. On the island of Siquijorin the Philippines, Marika and ShareefMy bungalow neighbors, a Swiss-Maldivian couple, became friends. We had memorable evenings with Neal and Raul, the two Filipinos who worked at the Kiwi Dive center and who introduced us to the island... 

In short, I'm forgetting a lot. I forget a lot. I don't count anymore the walks, aperitifs, meals and parties I was invited to. No, really, it's impossible to stay alone when you travel solo! 😅

Long live freedom!

Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

Another advantage, when you go alone: you do what you want, when you want. Without needing the assent of another. Without depending on the constraints of another. What a freedom!

We eat or not, at the time we want. We can hang out or not in a corner that we find nice. We don't have to answer to anyone. You don't need to be two to like the accommodation, guesthouse or hotel, that you visit. We are not obliged to have the same desires at the same time, nor to compromise on certain activities or excursions...

I also have the impression that this freedom makes you more receptive, more attentive, more available. Without company, one is more sensitive to the atmosphere of a place. More open, perhaps, to other cultures, other mentalities, other ways of thinking.

The fact of not being monopolized by the presence of a travel companion, who speaks the same language as you, who comes from the same world as you, it purifies the sensations, the thought, the look. You get a better feel for the country. You have a more personal approach, a more personal vision. No interference, no influence, no matter how benevolent and complicit they may be.

It is even a great advantage, sometimes, to be a "lonely traveler". As you are alone, the other women of the country dare to approach you. The conversation starts, you inspire curiosity, they want to know everything about you. Obviously, they are surprised that you travel like this, without a husband, without a child, without anyone. At the same time, they assure you that they find it very good (with a mixture of politeness and envy, often, for those who do not have your freedom of privileged Western tourist). You reassure them a little, saying that you still have friends, with whom you dive or go for a walk...

Being alone opens doors, breaks down shyness. Yours and others'.

Any drawbacks?

No worries to make cash, Nusa Lembongan! Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
No worries to make cash, Nusa Lembongan! Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

So yes, there are small disadvantages to traveling alone, but they seem minimal to me, compared to the infinite freedom of solo travel. They are in fact disadvantages of a purely material nature.

With two people, the accommodation is necessarily cheaper, since we divide the cost of the room. And nothing irritates me more than resorts and hotels that impose an exorbitant surcharge on travelers who have the audacity to not go in pairs... Grrr. I hate all these attractive rates that we find on the web with this charming parenthesis in small at the end: on the basis of two people.

The same goes for paying for private transportation with only a small purse, when there is no public transportation. But until now, I have often managed to share the price of a cab or a boat with other travelers I met along the way without too much trouble.

The most annoying thing, in fact, when you travel alone, is to have a problem with money: lost or stolen credit card, or cash... When you are two, you still have the card or the money of the other. When you can only count on yourself, you have to be careful. It happened to me three times that I had a hard time for that.

The first time, it was at Siem Reap airport (Cambodia). I didn't have enough dollars to pay the departure tax, which was higher than I thought, and the only ATM (automated teller machine) in the airport only accepted Visa cards (and at the time I had a MasterCard). So I begged for the few dollars I needed one by one from the tourists waiting there with me. People were nice and helped me out.

The second time, I simply lost my card in Thailand... at the bottom of my bag (yes, it happens). I finally found it, well stashed in a pocket I never use, just after I made a stop payment! I was good enough to call my sister and ask her to make an expensive Western Union money transfer for me, from Europe, just to have enough money to finish the vacations.

Finally, the third time was it was in Bangkokat the end of my stay. I wanted to do some shopping at the MBK Center and withdraw some baht. Except that after three weeks in the islands, I had forgotten my code (yes, it happens). I typed three times in a row a wrong code and my card was swallowed. I was able to get it back, because the bank where I wanted to make the withdrawal was open. But the card had been automatically deactivated... Fortunately, I still had enough cash for the small expenses before the departure. But I had to give up shopping.

What about security?

Kuta Beach, Bali. Indonesia, July 2008.
Kuta Beach, Bali. Indonesia, July 2008.

Apart from these minor material mishaps without consequences, nothing untoward has ever happened to me during my solo trips. My optimistic temperament leads me to believe that it can only continue like this.

Of course, I never hang out alone at all hours in bad neighborhoods. But I don't do it at home either. Whether at the end of the world or in my own country, I keep a minimum of common sense. Common sense is more than enough, in terms of precautions to take. I don't need a survival manual for women in foreign lands... Although.

The trip for girls who are afraid of everything

A book to recommend

For those of you who are worried, I invite you to relax with this great book, full of useful tips and testimonies of more or less intrepid adventurers (including mine), co-written with humour and talent by my friend, blogger and Quebec journalist Marie-Julie Gagnon:

→ Travel for girls who are afraid of everything

In all honesty, I have never had a feeling of insecurity. And I have never been mugged while traveling (it only happened to me in France, in Paris and in Rennes, in everyday life). A lot of girls ask me this question, but overall, the countries in Southeast Asia where I have been are safe places for a tourist traveling alone. Once or twice, I invented a husband who was supposed to join me soon, just to discourage some nice people, but that's all.

I'm not taking any risks, really, to fly away with my little person for only company to a far away place. I don't travel to countries at war. I do not put myself in physical danger. I do not accomplish any feat. I am not an explorer who takes risks. Just a dreamer, a walker...

Facing yourself

Faces surmounting one of the doors of the enclosure of the temples of Angkor. Siem Reap, Cambodia, June 2001.
Faces surmounting one of the gates of the Angkor temple enclosure. Siem Reap, Cambodia, June 2011.

All I risk, by leaving like this, is to be changed and transformed, to come back richer in encounters, memories, emotions. To know myself better too. To find oneself face to face with oneself, far from one's usual reference points is an interesting and instructive experience.

We rediscover ourselves in a new light. We discover qualities, unsuspected resources. Weaknesses, too. But suddenly, you know where you stand with regard to yourself.

And frankly, it is very gratifying to know a little better who you are. Once you've been relieved of everything, when you have nothing left but a travel bag to carry, you're clearer about who you are. We tell ourselves less stories, we better understand what is really important.

This helps in everyday life. From this point of view, solo travel, whether you are a man or a woman, is an invaluable experience.

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  1. I admit that the first time I went alone, I had some apprehensions, but finally I just loved it. We are more available and more open.

  2. @Denis: You're more available and more open, that's the impression I have too. But it's funny, I can't remember when it was, the first time I went on my own... And I don't remember being particularly apprehensive.

    @Nono: Well yes, it's so much easier and simpler, that I really don't understand why it impresses people so much when I talk about it around me... Curious. Otherwise, for the credit card problems, I take my hat off to you, you are the champion of all categories! Getting your card stolen... in a bank!!! You have to do it!!!

  3. It's true that it's generally easier, simpler to travel alone. When you lose your credit card (it also happened to me, it was stolen in a bank) it's the great system D.

  4. I agree so much with what you say about solo travel, which I too have been practicing assiduously everywhere (but especially in Southeast Asia), for years, that I can't help but stick my two cents in. And I am much older than you.

    This is still no problem. I have not experienced your money problems. I only had an accident once in Bali and it was a bit of a hassle to get to a transport, alone and walking with difficulty... but I got through it. It's more tedious in China in the sense of tiring, sometimes even exhausting because you have to deal with everything alone, all the time (accommodation, transport, formalities...), but that was from 1985 to 1991 and it must have improved.

    Indeed, this attracts the confidences of the local women against us. Men can be more difficult to convince and sometimes you have to lie, invent a whole family and especially children, to have peace. However, I rarely do this because I don't like to lie. Come what may!

    And what a delight to be alone on lost beaches (around Banggi in Borneo or Palawan in the Philippines for example or in Rodrigues (towards Mauritius), to have the whole sea, finally the impression of... You feel so much closer to nature, it's as if you threw yourself into it with open arms. And we can shout to it, even scream that we love it, as I did in the jungle of Borneo or Brunei, more than once and be surprised to talk to an animal that we have just crossed. And we can find ourselves the guest of a lost tribe (Penan to Bario in the Kelabit Higlands, still in Borneo), precisely because we were alone and that facilitates the contact, that we are easy to invite. And we can even leave with gifts (cucumbers of the tiny wild garden well hidden too).

    I don't dive, but I walk a lot with a small bag, water, fruits and cookies and I am often invited to the villages and I also put what I have on the collective table. And it is always spontaneous and unexpected. WHAT A HAPPINESS!

    No, there is no risk if you love the people, their country, the nature... they feel it. And I play a lot with the children who teach me a lot of things... It's a whole world. IT'S A WHOLE WORLD OF LIVING, FINALLY! I could write books about it.

    Well to you and accomplice,

  5. I had the chance to go alone, as a couple, with friends...
    Each configuration has its advantages and disadvantages, its freedom or its concessions.

    There are things that I would not have done alone, like renting a motorcycle to go for a ride or chartering a boat with friends... There are memories that I am delighted to share and evoke with my partner... With two people, it is easier to afford rooms that are a little more cozy...
    To many, we negotiate more easily rates, visits, we share some costs.

    Alone, as a couple, with friends, the important thing is not to have the impression of sacrificing your vacation to the desires of others, to keep different activities if the desires are not the same ... we already have enough constraints like that in our daily lives!

    Often, I spend part of the vacations with friends, for example on a diving cruise. Back on land, everyone continues their vacation between rest, other visits or destinations, diving again or going back home... Even in a group, I understand very well this desire to be free for a while.
    Besides, apart from diving, each of us lives his own life... we often cross each other walking on the side of the road... we laugh a lot when we meet each other on the side of the road... we exchange the good plans (purchases, restaurants, landscapes and monuments...) that we discovered.
    The important thing if you don't go alone is that the goal is not to stay stuck together, without communicating with the outside world... (a friend of mine recently spent 10 days cruising alone with a pre-formed group... who didn't speak to her the whole time!), that everyone is open and autonomous and respects the freedom of the others

    Alone or with others, it is also and above all a state of mind.
    Just look at the number of people who demand a French-speaking hotel, who don't set foot outside of their golden all-inn... they travel without a desire for openness and adventure... solo travel just doesn't have the same flavor... To each his own, it's just not the same way to experience a vacation.

  6. So, so, so much. You described perfectly (for a change! lol) the reasons why I love going off on my own. Now that I have a family, it's more difficult, but I'm finding benefits to this new situation too. Passing on my passion for travel to my daughter is more exhausting, but so rewarding!

    On the other hand, I admit that at times I wish I were a guy. In most Asian countries, I feel safe, but I sometimes avoid places that attract me because I wouldn't feel as comfortable there. Everything can't be perfect...

  7. Wow, very inspiring this post! I'm thinking of going on my own trip for the first time soon, but I must admit that this beautiful project gives butterflies, nice as most pernicious!

    There seems to be a penchant for Asia for single girls. What would be the best destination? Are there other regions that lend themselves to this type of travel as well? For me, it is Australia that attracts me; I think I would be as safe there as here. On the other hand, after hearing several interesting travel stories, Asia could be an option (and no doubt that the cost of living there would be much more reasonable!).

    Thank you for this beautiful testimony!

  8. Well done !

    superb article, each person having travelled alone will recognize himself there I think.
    In any case it was my case, you describe very well the state of mind that one acquires at once by leaving alone. One goes more to meet the other and especially, one is more 'listening' to the others!
    I also strongly agree that we meet a lot of people and that people come more easily to a single person... less fear of being turned away I think.

    Continue to make us dream !!


  9. Oh dear, I've been away from the computer for a while because of smoking cessation (just to dissociate the habits of smoking + keyboard + coffee) and I find messages!

    Thank you all for sharing your experience here. It is really exciting to discover through the words of each one, the thousand facets of the journey.

    @Odile: I took the liberty, as I indicated to you by e-mail, to put here, in the form of a comment, the so beautiful message that you had sent me. Your testimony touches me a lot.

    @Manta: I totally agree. Whether you go alone, in pairs or in a group, true freedom is a question of mindset. But everyone lives his vacations in the way that suits him... I am not a judge, on the contrary. As far as I'm concerned, solo travel suits my very independent character very well!

    @ Marie-Julie: I met a lot of people who were traveling with their children. The goal of this post was to demystify the so-called "adventurous" aspect of solo travel, to show that it is actually very simple and very rewarding. I suspected that, once again, we would find some common points... But like you, for some places, especially in Muslim countries, I think I would like to be a man, sometimes.

    @MissChocoe: Ah, how I love that expression from across the Atlantic, "having butterflies in my stomach"!!! Yes, that's exactly what I feel too, at each new departure. Asia has the advantage of being very safe for a lonely traveler, globally, people are very respectful; and yes, it's not expensive... Often, for an "easy" first approach, I advise Thailand. I would also like to go to Australia one of these days... An old dream!

    @Akway: I'm glad to see that your male point of view finally matches my impressions as a girl on the go... There's something really singular, unique, about discovering other horizons solo. It changes the perception.

  10. My take. Of course, I agree, I too travel mostly by myself for my diving vacations (we should make a club 🙄 ).
    It's true, we immerse ourselves more, without the filter of the other(s) that ties us to the everyday and prevents us from completely immersing ourselves in another world. I would feel like I was less gone if I had to spend a week with a group of French people where everything was pre-organized, even if it was on the other side of the world!
    But I admit that I cheat a little when I go, because I always book in advance in the dive centers I want to go to. In November, I don't want to miss Froggies, but I would have to learn to be more flexible!!!
    In any case I have great memories of meeting people, both locals and tourists like me, people that would have been more difficult to meet if I had not been alone.
    And finally, I particularly liked the paragraph "Facing oneself" "one is clearer towards one's little person. We tell ourselves less stories, we better identify what is really important." It's true, true, true!!! And it feels good, it dusts off the head!
    So there will be a few of us dragging our dive bags, all alone like big girls, and chatting endlessly afterwards telling our adventures on land and underwater 😀

  11. My girlfriend Colette who is a real globe trotter solo could confirm the words of this post. The only problems encountered during these solo trips was in the Middle East. Because for men, she did not exist. Otherwise, never a problem.
    I agree!

  12. @Malene: Going alone doesn't mean you can't make some preparations beforehand. For me, it is rare that I set everything in advance (Preparations, but not too much!), but on specific things, where I know it is better to book, I do it too. That said, when you are alone, it is quite easy to show up without a reservation in a dive center, especially if you have your own gear... we always find a place for you on the boat!

    @ Cecilia: Yes, that's the only disadvantage I see: being a woman when you want to discover some Muslim countries... But it's not just a matter of religion, I think, it's also a matter of culture, education... The attitude towards women in the Middle East is nothing like the one I've seen in Asian Muslim countries. In any case, in Indonesia, in Malaysia, in the south of Thailand, you arouse curiosity, as a western woman traveling alone, but people remain very respectful (provided, of course, that you avoid hanging out in tight mini-shorts, especially in very "traditional" places, but there, it's common sense, as I said above...). Anyway, thanks for the link in your column!!!

    @The Seaman of the galley: Mission accomplished!!!

  13. I have to say that before leaving alone for work, it would never have crossed my mind to go alone on vacation either, especially abroad... and in fact, now, I think that on the contrary (and especially abroad), it's sometimes much easier to be alone, rather than to be the guide/translator/leader/candidate of circumstance or to be stuck with someone else who assumes this task (because it's often the case of trips with several people even if there are only 2). I completely agree with this point of view. On the other hand, for some time now, I have 2 credit cards, a Visa and a Mastercard 🙂 to avoid this kind of mishaps (the only time it happened to me, in Dubai, fortunately, it was for work with a colleague, otherwise, it's not the kind of place where you want to have such worries)

  14. @Sylvain: A lot of people make a mountain out of a molehill of solo travel, when in truth, it's much simpler, indeed... You have to have experienced it to realize it.
    The idea of having two credit cards to be prepared for any eventuality, it's expensive, I guess, but it's a good idea. In fact, I have the impression that it's less problematic to have CB worries in Thailand than in Dubai!

  15. Alone, you meet people you wouldn't with two people or in a group. From time to time, it's nice to find this autonomy and freedom 😀
    In groups, it's often wearing and restricting, I stopped 😕
    In fact I like to go in a mini group (4 to 6 people), it's nice, less expensive (Lembeh, 1 week at SDQ with unlimited dives for 300E!!), we share the tasks, we do things we would not have thought of and then there are the "nostalgia" evenings on the way back... 🙄
    But as an old popular saying goes: "Better to go alone than badly accompanied" 🙂

  16. @Alimata: Autonomy and freedom, yes!!! How precious these little things are... That's what true luxury is all about, basically 🙂
    I have only tested the "group" option during press trips. Fun for a while, and in a professional context, but clearly it's not my thing. With two people, in general, it's ok, since you choose the person you're going with, but you still miss a lot of meetings...
    For my part, it would be complicated to organize something in a well sorted mini-group. No divers in my entourage. And my best friend is scared to death of flying. I'm not about to take her to Asia... By train, maybe, one day. 😆
    As for the others, they prefer to devote their holidays to their dear half or to their small family, which I conceive very well.

  17. When you subscribe to the Visa Premier card, you are offered the Cirrus card for free, which is a withdrawal card, even abroad. However, you can't use it to pay at merchants. It can be a good formula to have two cards abroad. It's a bit expensive at the beginning but you have insurance included which is quite good and you are entitled to high withdrawal limits. I came to it after having had several problems in Indonesia where the bank didn't want to give me cash with a regular Visa card even though I had plenty of money.
    For going alone, I repeat because it is still very pleasant from the point of view of freedom and availability that it provides: you can adapt your itinerary to your heart's desire, it's easy to find a train, plane, bus or boat ticket... but don't deprive your spouse or your children of a trip for all that... everything can be good, especially since some people can't stand the risk or the solitude...

  18. Hello little bubbles!
    I will make the hair scratch.
    I hate traveling alone especially if it means without it.
    This has never stopped me from meeting people, from making acquaintances, but also some I could have done without.
    Meeting people when you dive is very easy I think there is a kind of bond that "unites" divers.
    So the contact is natural.
    For me, walking in places as beautiful as improbable without sharing them with the one who accompanies me spoils the pleasure.
    Underwater it's even more true, understand each other with a single glance without speaking....
    And then the most beautiful place in the world is the space of his arms.... then!
    Continue to tell your adventures it's fun, and it allows to travel when it's not possible.

  19. @Odile: I too switched to Visa Premier for all the reasons you list, but I was never offered a Cirrus... I'm going to go bitch to my banker.
    Otherwise, of course, for solo travel, it is not about depriving yourself of company, nor depriving spouses and/or friends of travel, but simply knowing that there is no point in depriving yourself of leaving if you are alone, because on the contrary you will have a great trip!!!

    @Blue Lagoon: Hello Blue Lagoon... Your invervention is not too "scratchy", in fact, it finally joins what I answer just above to Odile... 😉
    My point is not to say: leave your spouses, lovers, friends, children etc. at home and go alone, but rather: if you have no one to accompany you, don't be afraid to go alone, even if you are a woman, it is on the contrary an opportunity, it allows you to make a really different trip...
    And I agree about the ease of meeting people when you dive. For me who travels solo, diving is really nice from that point of view.
    In any case, I am delighted to you / make you travel by proxy!

  20. Corinne!
    Ok, I'm jealous to death of the possibility that you have to travel so often.
    But it is especially your diving stories that tickle me the most.
    We just got back from a diving vacation a month ago and it feels like it was ten years ago!
    When I read you, I say "you", I have the pleasure to be with you under water. Since we won't be leaving for another year, it helps.
    Usually when I start purging my stab on the sidewalks of Panam, it's high time we booked a plane ticket.
    In the meantime I'm going back to my underwater pictures, and I'm dreaming of a little Nitrox at 32%.
    When are the next bubbles for you?

  21. @Blue Lagoon: I manage to go away twice a year, during my winter and summer vacations... No family constraints, it certainly gives more latitude!
    Even though I leave relatively often, I feel the same way as you do... I've only been back from Thailand for a month and a half and it feels like it was longer than that! My next bubbles will be in July. I haven't decided yet where to go, I just got a cheap round trip ticket from Paris to Kuala Lumpur. But I'm thinking about going back to Sipadan...

  22. Pffffff & #8230; ..
    You will say hello to the turtles on my behalf.
    We are returning from the Maldives, a small corner of the world where we have been putting our dive bags for a while already.
    I feel like I live there and I'm just passing through.
    It's quite different from purely Asian trips, almost impossible to get to the place outside the structure, but underwater it's carnival.
    To be done at least once with the risk of returning.

  23. Don't worry, it's only a matter of time.
    It is certain that it is not cheap, but it is more affordable on a cruise. On "Le Soleil" for example with Sean at the helm.
    Friends are full of praise for this.
    Well that's enough back to the gray.

  24. I traveled alone, I liked it a little, then I traveled alone to a destination shared by solos like me, with C****** [Message from Corinne: agency name removed, as my blog is not the place for such clearly "promotional" comments]I loved it.

    The fact of being with people like you allows real exchanges of emotions (especially during all the activities in which we participate together).

    I discovered the Charente between laughs, small cute plans, and a lot of warmth and humanism of the guides.
    France is so beautiful when you discover it zen and surrounded by people who are like us!

    C****** is a simple concept that brings a lot.
    This year I'm trying C****** Djerba, and I hope they'll soon create others to allow me to travel to many places in this way.

    See you soon


  25. @Lorine: Hello and welcome to Petites Bulles d'Ailleurs. I admit it: I was tempted to delete your comment, because your prose is clearly not the one of an ordinary internet user who testifies, but the one of a publicist who promotes her "concept" of travel agency for singles...

    That said, no one had touched on this facet of the travel market, so I'm keeping your post, which can continue the conversation on this topic.

    For my part, I find that organized trips for singles are nothing more than group trips! (Nothing to do with the kind of travel I'm talking about in this article, then.) I'm not saying that it's better or worse (I'm not saying that one way of traveling is better than another), and I'm sure that lots of people are happy with it and find a lot of advantages. But it's not quite the same as traveling solo...

    What would have been more interesting and constructive is if you had explained why you (supposedly) "moderately" enjoyed traveling alone. I also find it interesting that you bring up the idea of French vacations. As a result, I wonder: is it more or less easy to travel solo in France or abroad ❓

  26. Really interesting this article and comments.

    I do not travel solo like Corinne for at least three reasons:

    - I don't have a level of English that allows me to have discussions beyond the stage of banalities. I regret it especially with local people (Bali, Philippines) or divers from Northern Europe. And in some parts of Asia, French speakers are rare.

    - by impatience, I reduce some uncertainties before the departure. For example, in 6 days of diving from Mabul (SMART), I dived 12 times in Sipadan and 8 on Mabul/kapalai. I had taken a package from Paris. Diving in Sipadan is for me too serious a subject to be at the mercy of a random waiting list.

    - Even if diving is not a sport, travel brings up in me a past of team sports. With the necessary openness: the team members and their numbers are not necessarily the same. The rule is that there are not really any.

    Concretely, it happens in the following way. I announce to a dozen of well known divers that I'm going to such place at such date. Each one does what he wants before and after and manages his payments and reservations. If nobody answers, I go alone. But this never happens.

    The advantages of the group:

    - during the dives : I already know that I won't have to watch / wait for a guy I don't know and then go back up with 100 bars.

    & #8211; after the dive:

    & #8211; the environments of the dive sites are conducive to a relaxation that can solicit abdominals for reasons other than sports. And when we already know each other & #8230;

    - the pleasure of meeting foreigners (Swiss, Belgian) with whom I had previously sympathized. When we leave each other, we know without any certainty that we will meet again in 1, 2 or 3 years in Komodo or Raja Ampat. This is a very masculine behavior: a tunnel follows, then a "24 hours on time" meeting in x days in such and such a hotel in such and such an Asian capital. Then it starts again around a Bintang as if we had left the day before.

    & #8211; prices of hotels, transfers and sometimes cruises are reduced

    The disadvantages :

    - organization and anticipation, which requires making an announcement 6-8 months in advance

    - finding the right people and the right fit. I agree with Alimata on 4-6. It allows to have a complementarity (the handyman, the negotiator, the organizer, the photographer ...) while keeping the unity of being able to discuss together.

  27. Hello and congratulations!
    You have erased most of the answers we have to face, but I would make a big remark: if traveling alone can be a real happiness, it is also a real sadness to discover enchanting places and not to be able to share this privileged moment, if only with oneself... There is the limit of the solo travel, of the navel-gazing that I know well, to live it through my travels, which sometimes bothers me now.
    But don't see any bitterness in this, rather an observation. One does not travel in the same way at 20 as at 46.
    Greetings and good road!

  28. @Bertran: Very nice and interesting little rundown on the benefits of the group. Thanks for sharing your point of view!
    As far as diving is concerned, I agree: it is true that it is always more pleasant to have as a buddy someone with whom you are on the same wavelength and who has about the same level. I am finishing my Indo-Malaysian trip, and I must admit that during some of the trips, I would have liked to be with Linda again, the girl I dived with for two days in Mabul and Sipadan. As there are no divers around me, I adapt to those I meet during my trip. There are good and less good surprises...

    @Eric: Ah, I'm not 20 anymore, and not yet 46... But indeed, I don't travel anymore in the same way as I did during my very first trips (which were not solo, by the way).
    For my part, when I travel alone as I do at the moment, I don't feel this melancholy, this sadness that you speak of. On the contrary, I feel like sharing my discoveries with the other travelers I meet along the way. And also here, on this blog, thanks to the magic of the internet. By the way, my moments of solitude have been rather rare these last days. I didn't have to eat alone more than 4 or 5 times, during this month-long journey!
    Tonight, for the first time in a long time, on the eve of my flight back to Kuala Lumpur, I find myself alone... finally!!! It's good, too, to have some moments to myself.

  29. Hello,

    I discover this blog, I poke a little & #8230; It's good to find a travel blog that does not boil down to a stack of travel photos! Just for that, thank you.
    I am still sailing & #8230; and I come across this very interesting discussion.

    Traveling alone... what a pleasure! Time is for oneself (even more than at home), no account to give, we let ourselves be guided by the encounters and the air of time. Like freedom. Or something to do with independence. In this case, solitude is not a lack but a wealth.

    But, but, traveling alone in Asia certainly opens the door to less encounters than when traveling alone. Yes, the white man is often apprehended as a sex consumer, often wrongly... but unfortunately also often rightly.
    If it can encourage women to travel alone in Asia: you will meet more people than men. Because the contact with the young women of the country when you are a man, it is more difficult; it requires more time, that to decline the proposal of massa-massa or boom-boom. It is several days in the same place so that the young woman understands that this one, one can discuss with him. Of course, if you can't say three words in English, whether you're a man or a woman, it's a handicap. But to be told about the country by men AND women who live there, it is still much richer in teaching.
    I remember meeting an Australian woman in Cambodia in July 2008: she was traveling by bike and the locals wanted to help her. I imagine that she was repeatedly invited to stay with the locals. No doubt that a man in such a situation will have much less opportunity to sympathize.
    So you have to travel alone... with your children. In Asia it is the foot, in Cambodia in particular. I recommend it to all the dads with children. People will come to see you and ask you where the mother is. It opens a lot of doors!

    The only drawback to solo travel: we would like to share certain discoveries, certain emotions with people we love. But to share them at the moment! And it is not possible. So we use internet, SMS, we create a blog... But it is not the same. For me, these are the only frustrations I feel when traveling alone (I have never traveled in a group and I don't imagine it for a single moment; the only experience of the group abroad is a two days trek in Chiang Mai, it was very good by the way, I was very pleasantly surprised, but it was only two days). And we can show our travel pictures (personally I don't do it much, the trip alone is also a set of secrets for oneself), it is no longer the emotion of the moment. That's also why you have to go back...

    I read above that for a woman, traveling alone in a Muslim country gives a feeling of being nothing. But it's the same for a man who travels alone in a Muslim country when he is facing a veiled woman. It makes you feel uncomfortable. For that, Thailand is much nicer, Thais are very open-minded, men and women.

    What I agree with the most in your post, Corinne, is when you write that traveling alone is knowing what to do with yourself, it actually helps in everyday life. A friend of mine used to say that my travels were to escape from myself. No, it's to have a good time and also to get to know yourself better, to meet yourself in short. And it is perhaps this meeting that is the most important.

    That's it, I'm done. I don't know how to make it short, that's how it is.
    Good trips, alone or in groups!


  30. @Romuh: Welcome to Petites Bulles d'Ailleurs, and thank you for this long and interesting contribution.

    I didn't realize that it was perhaps easier to be a traveler than a solo traveler, in some situations... But what you say about children, whether you are alone with them or in a couple, is very true: it opens all doors!

    As for the impossibility of sharing one's emotions at the moment, I must admit that I don't mind. But this is probably a question of temperament. As for the pleasure of sharing afterwards, there are obviously the things I like to show publicly here, on this blog, and the exchanges that ensue, which are very enriching; and then more personal things, which I keep for myself or my close friends.

    Finally, I don't think you can run away from yourself when you travel solo... it's quite the opposite, in fact, you find yourself face to face. One can like or not the experience... There again, it is a question of temperament, I suppose.


  31. Hello Corinne,
    I like your blog, which I discovered through Marie-Julie Gagnon's blog. This post particularly appealed to me because I am also a solo traveler and I appreciate each time more this way of traveling. However, I felt compelled to react to some of the comments I read above about women traveling to Muslim countries and "not existing". In fact, for me, it is totally the opposite! In Egypt, Tunisia, Morocco, Senegal, I did not feel that I did not exist, on the contrary, but that I existed much more than elsewhere! It is impossible for a single Western woman to pass incognito in these countries! A young woman on her own attracts all eyes (from men as well as from women) and is constantly observed, solicited. This is rarely mean, but these are generally cultures where young women are rarely alone and independent, let alone traveling, so it surprises people. If on top of that, the tourist in question is blonde (like me), she must expect to be the center of attention everywhere, all the time. It can be a bit overwhelming at times, but you develop certain techniques to attract less attention (wearing loose clothing, a hat) and to keep away the glue pots (pretending to speak only Danish, wearing a fake wedding ring, etc.). In fact, I got so used to being the center of attention on these trips that I was disappointed when I returned to Montreal that no one looked at me or talked to me! I did my first solo trips in the countries I mentioned above, so I learned the hard way! But these are the places in the world where I felt the most that I existed. So there you have it.

  32. @Josianne: Thanks for your testimony, very interesting. I'm not a blonde, but I use the same tricks to keep away possible (and rather rare, in my case) glue pots, I admit... 😆
    What you say is very true: a woman traveling alone arouses much more interest, especially in the most traditional areas, where women's emancipation is not the same as in the West.
    I remember a long conversation I had with a young Malaysian woman, at the consulate in Tawau, Borneo, who asked me a thousand enthusiastic questions, her eyes shining with curiosity and envy, telling me how much she would have liked to be able to do as I did, to travel alone, to see the country, to meet people, in total freedom...
    I measure my luck. And I try not to forget it, when, back in France, I meet only indifferent looks.

  33. hello Corinne I totally agree with you. I traveled alone for a long time as a backpacker, I even spent three months in the jungle of Borneo... All your arguments are right but sometimes being in pairs makes things easier. One keeps the luggage while the other looks for a cheap hotel. Watching over you if you sleep in a station and then in case of big difficulties (it happens in very adventurous trips), two is better. In case of depression too (inevitable with the tiredness of 6 months of travel) And then I also like to share great ecstasies in front of a landscape, people. I've been with a lovely woman for 20 years who likes to travel my way (outside of the tourist circuits) and it's going great and we've had a lot of contact with the population (Tibet, Africa, etc.). And the presence of a woman makes me discover contacts with other women (more difficult for a man alone). The hardest part is to come back...
    good luck to you
    Jean Pierre

  34. @ Zantas51: Oh, but I don't say that it's less good for two people... Especially if you have a great complicity with your travel companion. And it's true that it makes things easier in case of a problem.
    My point is to say that you should not forbid yourself to travel under the pretext that you are alone. It is in fact much easier than we imagine, and often richer in encounters. Thanks a lot for your testimony!

  35. Hello,

    This discussion has not stopped and it is with great pleasure that I note this. The evening that has just taken place is not the only reason.

    zantas51 wrote "And then I also like to share great ecstasies in front of a landscape, of people". This is indeed the only element of frustration I have experienced in traveling alone. Sharing an "ecstatic" moment in one's mother tongue adds an emotional dimension to the trip. I found penelope25 in Cambodia, after various email exchanges during the preparation of our respective trips. I took her to an island that I had discovered 6 months before; the sharing and the sensitivity of the other, whose mother tongue is common, added an undeniable plus.
    Complicity is born from this sharing; we had never met before.

    But of course, traveling alone (if it's so different) brings a lot. And I am not ready to put an end to it. To be unique, to have only the local population to communicate and pursue, forces a very very enriching opening, a sharing not obliged, but necessary. And pleasant.

    The aesthetic side is very important in this solo trip; standing out creates curiosity... and therefore exchange. One can want to hide... or on the contrary to show oneself, it depends.
    In Asia, in Africa, in South America, the blonde traveler will have an additional "difference", which can also become burdensome; my daughter, blonde with blue eyes, 8 years old during her trip to Cambodia told me about it several times ("I was fed up with them looking at me all the time and that Mr. Raga pinched my cheek"). It is up to her to play with this difference or not.

    The language barrier also brings into play spontaneity, which is itself very instructive of the other. The aesthetic difference will favor or not, each situation creating an experience.

    A thought: is the journey of a single woman or a single man so different? Not sure. There is always a relationship of seduction with the other. A single woman will be very pampered here, but despised there. The same goes for a single man, when the image of the European tourist is that of a sex consumer. Money or individual respectful of the other's culture? It is up to the native to ask himself the question, if he wishes.

    The difference in culture will lead to a different adaptation time. If in Cambodia you have to leave time to be offered things to eat (waiting two hours in a crowded minibus), in Bangkok it will only take 5 minutes and a joke to be offered to taste an ice-cream.
    The food example is not exclusive, but it is, from my experience, the most blatant; "I eat like you, I fully accept you as you are."

    Of course, a good stomach plaster is sometimes necessary... thanks B...lix. I'm exaggerating, of course.

    To read you!

  36. @Romuh: I am delighted to see this discussion continue. Thank you for sharing your experience here again. Highly Relevant Observations & #8230;

  37. I love traveling alone too. As you say, you can't be alone unless you lock yourself in a hotel... I think it's great!
    On January 15, I also go to Tioman, for the first time in Malaysia, then Australia, and on the way back Bali and Thailand.

  38. After browsing this blog, myself preparing my first solo trip to Thailand, I thought (and that could be another interesting point to address): how resourceful he is to be able to manage everything solo & #8230 ;?
    I'll let those who have been through the experience and have opinions to share... 💡

  39. I had heard the same words before I packed my bags. But I knew I wouldn't be afraid, that I would meet so many people on the road and get a great view.
    The feeling of freedom is exhilarating.

    I feel like I will always need to take solo getaways far, far away.

    It also makes me realize how much I care about some people and that although far away, they are part of my balance.


  40. @EurAsia: Well, in travel, it's like in life... If you are smart at home, you will be smart elsewhere.

    @NowMadNow: I still don't understand what people are afraid of, at the idea of going solo... For me, I find it almost easier and simpler to go alone... 😀
    Yes, the feeling of freedom is exhilarating. And then, we take better measure of what is important, of what we are worth, of who we are, once alone at the end of the world. The experience is insanely enriching.

  41. @Boucline: Yes, for Indonesia, it is better to know a little English, or to learn Bahasa (the basics are easy)! In Indonesia, very few people speak French. Only in the Toraja country, on Sulawesi, did I meet a lot of French speaking guides. And as for the rest of Southeast Asia, even in the former French colonies (Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia), it is easier to have exchanges in English than in French...

  42. I am so glad I discovered this blog. I'm getting ready to go on a solo trip to Indonesia, and I'm wondering if not speaking English should hold me back from traveling to Southeast Asia. I heard that you can get by in French in this part of the world. What do you think about it?

  43. I too have been traveling solo for a few years now and the only thing I can think of is: why didn't I do it sooner!

    Let's be clear, I don't want to make the apology of individual travel, I have in the past traveled in couple or in group, I don't deny it, but we each have our own story and it happens that from now on I travel alone, sometimes by choice, sometimes by obligation, often both at the same time.

    I have to say that it took me a while to "take the plunge" and this was mainly due to the pressure of people around me whose behavior is often dictated by the herd spirit.

    And when we listen to them, all the reasons are good not to go on an individual trip:

    -you are too young
    -you are too old
    -you are a woman
    -you are a man
    -you are a woman
    in Asia
    -you are French
    -you went
    & etc. #8230; & #8230; ..

    I think the most difficult thing was that very first solo trip that I did where I had so many apprehensions because of the judgment of others, apprehensions that were very quickly dispelled once I got there.
    Now with hindsight I join the people who wrote here before me to say that I have never met as many people as when I travel alone.

    Couples and families on a trip? Well, they first exchange with each other before exchanging with "strangers" and it's normal, I was like them before.

    The groups? Well, that makes me laugh a little bit, I have traveled in a group myself, the group is united at the departure from France, but once there, it breaks up and each one goes his own way, officially because of "free time", unofficially because X does not have any chemistry with Z, and in the end, there is no more difference with the solo traveler (who declares himself as such from the start)
    It is often on these occasions that we measure our degree of affinity with so-and-so: the good room mate or the nice and funny colleague with whom we spend 8 hours a day at the office having fun...but who becomes a completely different person when we have to share the bungalow and the moods 24 hours a day, 7 days a week!
    The expression "we wouldn't spend our vacations together" is neither anodyne nor usurped.
    The risk is greater when traveling abroad with compatriots, the fact of speaking the same language immediately establishes privileged links and one often misses many things.

    It's true, I admit it, sometimes during my solo travels I would have liked to be accompanied in certain situations, it's the case at the start of certain excursions or during lunch when everyone is between couples or friends and you find yourself there like an ass without knowing who to talk to, but it has never happened to me, neither very often nor for a very long time.
    Or when you are told "I'm leaving you, I think my husband/wife is waiting for me" and you answer "and I have my nasi goreng waiting for me...".
    There are other purely material inconveniences, as Corinne mentioned, but taken as a whole it is really derisory.

    During my last trip to the Philippines, I went solo, I came back with friends on the spot that I will be happy to see again during a next trip there and I met a couple of Belgians that I see regularly in Paris and Brussels, and we are working on a next trip to make... together.

    1. Hello,

      Congratulations. Finally, a woman who talks about true freedom. The one that consists in being in congruence with yourself. Your last post is a little dated so I hope you continue to enjoy traveling with yourself.
      Good roads & #8230;
      Another aficionado of the solo trip.

  44. Great post! I just discovered it today and I completely recognize myself in what you say. I also find it hard to understand this astonishment about girls who travel alone, so much it seems natural to me to do it. And yet, I don't feel like an adventurer, nor a daredevil, and I even have some shyness tendencies... But what a joy to travel alone! And I was lucky enough to meet some incredible friends on the road. I have traveled a lot alone in Asia and South America, and absolutely recommend it. The only country where I really felt uncomfortable was South Africa. There is way too much insecurity, and it's not a good country for solo travel... But that's true for guys as well as for girls in my opinion.

  45. @Sarah: Yes, I think that mentalities are difficult to change. A lot of people think that a girl should not travel alone. I have a friend who traveled alone in South Africa, and it was fine. She was just a bit more careful in some places.

  46. I found your article very interesting.
    I admit that for me, traveling alone is a pleasure, even if the only problem is the evening when you are alone in front of your plate... but as you said, it doesn't happen very often since you can always find someone.

    For me, the hardest thing was to travel in India alone, not because of the security but because I was always being questioned by the Indians... and in the long run, it was annoying.

    I even went on my own for a year with just 3 months with friends and I must admit that I loved the alternation...

  47. @PEPS: Yes, it's nice to be able to alternate travel modes, too. But frankly, I have never felt lonely on my solo trips. But there is no rule or recipe. It depends on the circumstances, on the temperament. Just a question of balance, of dosage, I guess. For my part, I find that the total freedom of solo travel has something quite exhilarating, that one never finds as completely with a companion.

  48. If you want to do it, Marie-France, I think you can! We often discover afterwards that we have much more courage than we thought. Go on a trip that is not too long, two or three weeks. I really recommend Southeast Asia for a first solo travel experience, because these are countries where it is very easy to travel, with good security conditions, and with a lot of solo travelers. My first solo trip was to Vietnam. I had planned to stay one month, and as a result, I stayed two months and extended it with Thailand, and I was never alone for a second! I loved it!!! An amazing experience! 🙂

  49. @MarieFrance: I agree with what Sarah wrote.

    Listen to your desire, it is not a question of courage. In any case, Sarah's advice is very accurate: Southeast Asia is very easy (those who go to difficult places in Southeast Asia are those who decide to do so, either because they refuse to take the easy way out or because they want to know "something else"). The most difficult thing is to decide to buy the plane ticket in accordance with the necessary time off. And don't buy a package tour before leaving. Even if you are "tricked" on the spot, it will cost you less... But it will bring you many more contacts.

    One last thing: making a choice means taking a risk. The risk of regretting this choice because the weather was unfortunately pitiful during the trip, for example (very rare when you know the weather beforehand). Or the risk of regretting all the time that you never dared.

    The choice is yours.

  50. Your post is so right, and motivates me even more to leave alone 🙂
    What you say about meeting new people, the freedom to do what you want without being under the constraint of "the other" and being more sensitive because "cut" from your culture really resonate with me.
    The anecdote where you forget your ATM code already happened to me in France and considering how difficult it is here, I hardly dare to imagine how it was abroad.
    Article put in my bookmarks, direct 😉

    1. When I read your own post, about your desires to leave, I thought that this one could only comfort you in your impulses and your aspirations... Without being a long distance traveler, I manage to organize regular escapades. There is nothing easier, in fact.

  51. Hi Corinne,

    First of all, thank you for your blog that I discovered (almost) by chance: I am starting to take information for my next trip to the Philippines with I hope the Divemaster at the end.

    In reaction to this post I suggest you the book "Théorie du Voyage, poétique de la géographie" by Michel Onfray which impelled my previous journey and of which I reproduced some passages on my own blog. I think you would like it if you haven't already read it 😉

    Maybe see you soon in another comment 🙄

  52. thank you Corinne
    I come from Quebec and I love to make sports trips .. marathon and trecking and of course to see the country.
    I have never traveled alone but maintaining life leads me to be alone and phew !! not easy but I imagine that the little stress of leaving alone is especially for the first trip .. my fears are to lose me and make bad meetings
    The places I would like to go are France and Italy is this good for a first
    thanks to you

    1. @Chantal: I don't know if France and Italy are "good" for a first time alone. It all depends on what you want to do... I think that any destination is "good". Do yourself a favor, go to places that attract you. As for the rest, as I always say, it's a matter of common sense. You are no more likely to have bad encounters than in everyday life... No need to stress!!!

  53. Ah thank you for this article! I stumbled upon it, and it feels good to read all these positive messages about the solo trip!
    I'm off to Scotland (let's not go too far away to begin with 😛 ) for my first solo trip, in a month and... I'm freaking out! I may be 22, but I'm not a very secure person and I hope this trip will cure me of that 😆
    To tell the truth, I'm mostly afraid of eating alone... It's a rather futile fear but I don't know, it's such a moment that we're used to share, or to do in a known place...
    Finally, always is it that this article boosts me to de-stress! Thank you very much !
    And I'm glad to see you write for the newspaper I read every day =D I'll look for your name next time hey 😀
    Good continuation !


    1. @Margot: no need to stress, everything will be fine. Take with you a book, a little notebook to write, or a newspaper, when you go to eat somewhere alone. But if it is, you will not often eat alone, we meet easily when we travel solo & #8230;

      As for Ouest-France, I now work for the website, so I write much less for the paper...

      Good preparations and good trip !!!

  54. Hello Corinne,
    It's a pure delight to read you!
    Well, I know this article is from 2009, but I recently added you on twitter and I just discovered your blog & #8230;
    I must say that going solo is really the best thing to do!
    Well I haven't been to Asia and I haven't done any diving either (since I have a blue fear of fish) 😕 , but I did visit the south of France, last month and I loved it!
    Doing what you want when you want is great!
    No compromise to make, only to please yourself!
    For the next trips, I plan to go back alone! 😀
    All the feelings you describe, I felt them too #8230;
    I live in Montreal and I read your article about the poutine at La Banquise and it is true that it is good! In Nice, there is a restaurant called Quebec and I tasted their poutine, it was different hihi, but still good!
    Good continuation

    1. @Roxanne: thank you so much for taking the time to leave a message, so nice! Yep, it's been three years since I wrote this article, but it's still relevant as far as I'm concerned... Around me, even today, few people share or understand my persistent taste for solo travel. During my last trip (to New Yorkat the end of May), I was not alone, however. I also vary the pleasures.
      The main thing is that everyone finds the way to travel that best suits their temperament!

      As for Montreal, yes, I hope to go back there one day soon to treat myself to a solid, authentic poutine!!!

    2. I just noticed that you had rewritten me... 🙂
      Reading your blog is a journey in itself and I thank you for it! We feel your passion 🙂 I also thank you for taking the time to add lots of links to other blogs 🙂 I feel that I have not finished reading travel stories! Ah and your pictures are sublime! See you soon

  55. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who loves solo trips! 🙂 Thanks for this article 😉
    A few days ago, I went alone for 2 days to Disneyland Paris: it's easier to get a seat in a crowded restaurant when you're alone ^^ And it's too bad if people look at me funny...

  56. Good evening Corinne,

    Thank you for this post, it gives me the push I was missing to go off on my own. By reading this discussion, I was conquered.

    J’aimerai partir, pour la première fois, seule l’automne 2013 en Asie, et je me posais justement la question : quels pays faire ?
    J’aimerai commencer par l’Inde, passer par le laos, le cambodge La Thaïlande et finir par Bali.
    I would like to go 2 months, see more & #8230; But my question is how to organize my trip?
    Take a round trip or just a go and then get by?
    Lots of questions go through me and I'm a little lost & #8230;
    If you have any advice to give me, please, they are welcome!

    Thank you again for sharing your experiences


    1. @Ryme: which countries do? How to organize the trip?
      Je ne sais pas trop, sur des questions aussi larges, les réponses sont différentes pour chacun. Tout dépend de ton budget, de tes envies… Le mieux, c’est d’élaborer un itinéraire en gros, mais avec suffisamment de souplesse pour pouvoir éventuellement modifier les choses en cours de route…
      Good preparations!

  57. Very good article is true that you tell me the problem is that I do not speak at all English and abroad it may complicate no?

    1. C’est un faux problème l’anglais,
      Tu n’as qu’à faire comme les 3/4 des français qui croient parler anglais, tu prononces le vocabulaire qui te manque en français mais avec un accent anglais et comme les gens en Asie sont très bien élevés ils feront comme s’ils te comprenaient 😉

      The second trip will be less bad and so desuite!

      ps : j’ai mes billets pour DPS , merci (un peu quand-même) à Corinne !

    2. @Dubois: c’est sûr que l’anglais, ça permet de communiquer plus facilement, avec les locaux comme avec d’autres voyageurs. Ceci dit, il n’est jamais trop tard pour s’y mettre, comme le suggère Yannick un peu plus haut…

  58. At voyageuse solo. Je suis aussi une voyageuse solo et j’ai eu les même inquiétudes et question sur le faite que je voyager seul.
    I think what is normal for a man and suspect for a woman.
    Je pense que c’est les croyances et les peurs de ces gens qui est dans leur culture éducation.
    Bon sa va quand ils sont tolérants par contre d autres sont très désagréable dans leur propos et attitudes sous prétexte qu’on est seul. 🙄
    Désolé pour mon orthographe je n’ai pas fait beaucoup de
    I will follow you on twiter.

  59. Hello,
    je suis charlotte, j’ai 23 ans. J’ai terminé mes études cette année et décide de partir seule 7 mois en Amérique du sud (costa rica, equateur, perou, bolivie, argentine)… Je concilie des missions de volontariat social et du voyage…
    Je suis inquiète car, même si j’ai déja été seule en voyage, je n’ai jamais été aussi loin seule mais surtout sans un cadre sécurisant (stage,…).
    Actuellement, je fais les derniers préparatifs car mon départ est le 20 septembre. J’ai vraiment du mal à etre zen… Même si je suis persuadée que je rencontrerais beaucoup de monde, j’appréhende d’être seule pour les visites de sites par exemple car, seule, j’apprécie mais j’aime partager aussi…
    En fait, j’adore voyager seule pour tous les cotés positifs cités plus haut mais j’ai peur de voyager seule… C’est un peu étrange ce que je dis mais j’appréhende beaucoup beaucoup et ça me fait du bien de le dire… De plus, je serais en voyage seule durant les fêtes (noel et jour de l’an) et ça aussi ça m’inquiète… être seule pour ces moments… je ne sais pas trop comment cela va se passer… J’imagine qu’une fois arriver à San José (CR) ça ira mieux… merci pour votre lecture et si vous avez un ptit mot d’energie pour moi et que j’emporterais je suis preneuse. 🙄

    1. @Charlotte: je ne connais pas du tout l’Amérique latine, mais ton projet s’annonce alléchant !!! Tu fais une fixation sur le fait d’être seule, mais je suis persuadée que tu te retrouveras bien moins seule que tu ne l’imagines… On n’arrête pas de faire des rencontres et de sympathiser avec des gens, en voyage.
      Good preparations !!! 8)

  60. Hello everyone, and congratulations for this blog very well done.
    Mesdames, vous dites ce qui est normal pour un homme ne l’est pas pour une femme. Eh bien, non, pour un homme aussi, voyager seul apporte parfois de la suspicion, voire de la méfiance… Sans compter le nombre de “demandes en mariage” au bout d’une heure de discussion!! Mais ce n’est rien en comparaison de vrais et forts moments d’humanité partagés.

    1. @serge: thank you for sharing your experience here! And for marriage proposals, we are also well served as solo travellers... 😆

  61. Hello everyone, Corinne,
    Ayant suivi le lien de Romain que je savourais lors de son TDM, j’atérris sur le tien, et ainsi apporter ma pierre à l’édifice sur les voyages en solo, et parfois en solitaire.
    Car sans philosopher, en solitaire, ça induit parfois que cela l’est aussi dans la tête…
    Ainsi je suis parti sur un coup de tête un 1er janvier en ayant réveillé ma future femme le jour de l’achat du billet, au mois d’octobre précédent, à 1h du mat 🙂 au Brésil et en Argentine.
    Ce qui est à remarquer, c’est que ce moment de blues insupportable, m’a donné la force de réaliser mon rêve d’aller voir les chutes d’Iguaçu situées entre ces deux pays. Ainsi durant ce séjour, ou j’étais parti meurtri, je fus, à défaut avec les autres, en harmonie avec la nature de ce coin du monde et plus généralement avec l’environnement.
    Muni d’un carnet, j’ai compensé mes douleurs par ces mots qui remplaçaient les autres (maux pour ceux qui sont un peu perdu..:) )

    Je ne dis pas que je suis guéris, je dis que franchir le seuil du raisonnable pour accéder au plaisir, au souhait ultime, quel que soit ça représentation est réellement tangible qu’en solitaire.

  62. Hello Corinne,

    Super ce blog, je profite de ma semaine de vacances pour m’informer sur ma prochaine destination… A la lecture de ces échanges je souhaite à mon tour partager mon expérience. Comme toi j’ai visitée presque toute l’Asie en solo et je me lance depuis 2/3 ans vers de nouveaux cieux. Découvrir un pays de façon complètement autonome est génial, pour en apprendre sur soi et pour vivre avec les autres.

    Seulement voila l’aspect “sécurité” que tu développes dans ce post ne reflète pas vraiment mon expérience, effectivement en asie, il n’y a pas bcp de risque pour une femme voyageant seule, en fait pas plus que pour un homme. Perte de CB ou vol de sac à dos sont des situations qui peuvent arrivées en France, donc nous savons toutes comment réagir.

    Des expériences bien plus traumatisantes me sont arrivées en Amérique du sud et au Moyen-Orient, je ne souhaite pas citer les pays en question car il s’agit de pays très touristiques et que cela ne reflète pas non plus la totalité de mon expérience ainsi que le souvenir que je souhaite garder.

    Pour les personnes qui comme moi ont des difficultés à passer le pas (ou ne le peuvent plus) j’ai découvert l’été dernier une agence de voyage proposant une alternative entre la liberté du voyage en solo et la sécurité du voyage “de groupe”. Je ne sais pas s’il est possible de mettre un lien commercial mais voila le site s’appel je trouve le concept et l’état d’esprit tourisme solidaire attachant et l’esprit co-voyageur intéressant…

  63. Hello,

    ton texte est vraiment super! Je m’apprête à partir dans 2 semaines seule pendant 7 mois et de te lire m’a beaucoup rassurée. Les gens autour de moi essaient souvent de me décourager par peur mais je tiens bon! Je voulais savoir où c’était l’endroit ou tu as prise la dernière photo, celle des deux visages!

    Thank you

    1. Marie-Eve: Yeah, don't get discouraged and do your own thing. You will surely be enriched by this experience... 😉

      Les visages dont tu parles sont en fait quatre (sous cet angle, on n’en voit que deux). C’est au Cambodge, près de Siem Reap, sur chacune des portes d’entrée de l’enceinte du site d’Angkor. Les visages sont orientés vers quatre points cardinaux.

      Tu pourras retrouver au bout des liens ci-dessous d’autres photos prises lors de mes différents voyages là-bas :

      In 2011 :

      In 2003 :

      In 2001 :


  64. Super article ! J ai beaucoup voyagé avec des amies étrangères depuis que je vis en finlande, mais j’ai soif de voyager seule dans mes villes de coeur (Liverpool et Stockholm) parce que j’aimerais me mettre à l épreuve, sorte de voyage initiatique en soi 🙂 Les gens trouvent déjà courageux que je sois pqrtie pour un an à l ‘ étranger pour mes études, mais pour moi le vrai courage je serai de partir seule. J’en serais capable, j attends juste le bon timing. Merci pour cet article encore une fois ! 😉 😉

    1. @Ydie: Il suffit juste de franchir le pas une première fois. Ça permet de se rendre compte si on est à l’aise ou pas, juste avec soi-même… 😉

  65. Voyager en solo, il va falloir que je m’y mette : à force d’attendre que mes amis soient dispos, aient envie de partir au même endroit que moi et/ou aient le même budget, je ne fais pas du tout ce que je voudrais faire !
    Et pourtant, qu’est-ce que j’ai peur ! Moi qui ait peur de tout, partir seule ça me terrifie… Parce que j’ai la trouille de me confronter à moi même et à mes émotions en cas de lâcher prise !
    Still, I'm seriously thinking about Thailand for March, a week to start slowly... So I'm going to browse your blog to see if I can catch some good advice 🙂
    Thank you

  66. Hello Corinne,

    Je suis celibat depuis peu et j’ai toujours voyagé avec une partenaire…Par contre, en lisant cette cronique – Voyager en solo, je me dit que ça doit être un expérience fascinant de voyager seul et découvrir tout ce qu’un nouveau pays peut nous offrir en richesses et cultures… par contre, j’étais comme certain… craintif et de ne pas pouvoir profiter de ces belles choses. De toute façon, ce texte vient de me rassuré et j’ai décidé que je vais partir pour la première fois seul…cette été ou l’hiver prochain (à voir et planifier)….Merci Corinne, ton article a été une inspiration et est venu cherché ce que je recherchais… Qui sait, je deviendrai peut être un mordu de ce genre de voyage !
    Have a good day
    Henri B

    1. @Henri B : oui, il suffit de franchir le pas une fois, pour s’apercevoir que ça n’a rien de bien difficile, de voyager seul(e)… J’aime beaucoup voyager en solo, mais j’apprécie aussi les voyages à deux. Ce ne sont pas tout à fait les mêmes plaisirs.

      Ceci dit, en solo, on ressent, je trouve, une espèce de griserie, de liberté, fort plaisante, qui transforme et amplifie encore les sensations du voyage… Après, c’est peut-être aussi une question de tempérament.

      En tout cas, ravie de te donner l’envie de tenter un départ !

  67. Je suis en Corée pour un échange universitaire et je compte profiter de la fin du semestre pour faire du tourisme en Asie du Sud-Est. Je pense partir seule car personne ne me semble être ici un “compagnon de voyage adapté” (aucune envie de ruiner mes escapades à cause de gens qui voudront faire ceci ou cela, être trop fatigué pour marcher, pas se lever trop tôt, etc…) et ton article me rassure sur le fait de partir seule 🙂
    Thank you !

    1. @Céline: mais oui, rien de plus agréable que l’Asie du Sud-Est pour une fille seule… Tu devrais en revenir enchantée !!!

  68. Thank you for this article. 😉
    Cela fait deux ans que je souhaite visiter la Suède et voir le soleil de minuit au mois de juin. Cependant, aucun de mes amis n’est partant (ils sont tous en couple…). Cette année, j’ai alors décidé de partir, seule, à la découverte des grandes villes. Mais voilà, quand j’ai dit à ma famille, qui savait plus ou moins que je voulais partir en Suède, que je voulais partir seule, voici les réactions auxquelles j’ai eu le droit:
    “mais tu y vas toute seule? Mais c’est dangereux. Et puis tu vas dormir où? … En auberge de jeunesse, mais ça va pas!”
    (et quand ma mère demande à ma grande soeur, pourtant grande voyageuse- avec des amis ou en couple- ce qu’elle pense de mon projet de voyager seule, voici sa réponse : “ah, bah c’est sûr que même moi je ne le ferais pas; et puis, c’est nul de voyager seule…”. )
    Donc voilà, je me sens un peu démunie. J’ai pourtant vraiment envie de découvrir la côte sud de la Suède. Mais je ne sais pas si j’arriverais à faire face aux critiques de ma famille…Peut-être que comme l’année dernière, je repousserai le projet d’une année et partirai en groupe, en france, (car les voyages en groupe à l’étranger sont hors de prix pour l’étudiante que je suis). Et puis, je m’étais faite à l’idée de voyager seule…

    1. @Sosso: Sweden, dangerous ???? Let's go good & #8230; You would go to Syria, I do not say. But in Sweden ???
      If I may, do not let yourself be influenced by what others think and do the right thing.

      Tente l’expérience du voyage en solo, et là, tu sauras vraiment, si oui ou non, “c’est nul de voyager seule” ou si au contraire c’est génial, et si ça convient à ton tempérament ou pas… Bref. Le mieux est d’essayer pour pouvoir se faire sa propre opinion. Non ?

  69. Bonjour Corinne. Quel plaisir de te lire ce matin en tapant ” voyage en solo en Thaïlande “..Pendant 30 ans je n’ai jamais voyagé seul et en février dernier j’ai décidé de partir seul en Inde, pays où j’ai déjà été 6 fois….Ce fut mon plus beau voyage, que de belles rencontres…au point que j’ai pris goût, encouragé par cette belle expérience et je voudrai partir cet automne en Thaïlande en solo…Je me suis découvert bien davantage que tout au long de mes années passées ici en famille, en couple…Merci pour tes propos si positifs !

    1. @Bapouji: that, I must say that me too, my solo trips were the most beautiful, the strongest, the richest, the most outstanding & #8230;

      Pourtant, je sais bien que le voyage en solo ne convient pas forcément à tout le monde. J’ai une amie qui voyage souvent, parfois seule, parfois avec une autre personne. Mais elle, qui a fait l’expérience de ces différents types de voyage, elle préfère être à deux. Elle trouve ça mieux. Moi non. Et elle a bien du mal à saisir ce qui me fait tant vibrer dans le voyage en solo… Question de tempérament, sans doute.

      En fait, comme toi, depuis que j’ai goûté les plaisirs du voyage en solo, je les trouve bien supérieurs à ceux du voyage à deux ou en groupe… Mais cette idée-là n’est pas facile à faire admettre ou comprendre.

      Alors j’ai essayé de restituer mon ressenti, mon vécu, dans cet article. Et vu le nombre de commentaires qu’il a suscités depuis qu’il est en ligne, je constate que je ne suis pas une extraterrestre et que je ne suis pas si “bizarre” que ça !!! Nous sommes nombreux à avoir voyagé en solo et à avoir trouvé l’expérience tellement plus forte, plus intéressante, et plus riche en rencontres…

  70. Hello,
    Super article, I think more and more to go on a trip alone!
    Pour l’instant je projette de passer une dizaines de jours en Irlande, pour ne pas aller trop loin tout de suite, mais l’idée que je parte seule ne plait vraiment pas à ma famille qui trouve ça trop dangereux, et j’avoue ne pas être trop rassurée moi-même. Et par dessus tout j’ai peur de ne pas réussir à rencontrer de gens, je suis d’un naturel plutôt timide et j’ai beaucoup de mal à aller vers les autres, alors j’ai peur de ne pas voir le côté “belles rencontres”, nouveaux amis des voyages solos … 😳

    1. Salut Lou, je viens de lire tout ces supers témoignages, et le tient dans lequel je me retrouve un peu, partagée entre l’envie de me lancer ce défit, et la peur car timide aussi … 🙁
      Je vois que ton message date de juin as tu avancé dans ton idée ? des projets en cours ? Serais tu tentée par l’idée de partir à 2 “seules” plutôt qu’en groupe organisé ?

  71. Hello Lou.
    Je comprends d’autant plus tes appréhensions que ta famille n’est pas rassurée. Donc sa peur et ta peur font beaucoup de peurs…..Je ne connais pas ton âge, mais si au fond de toi tu as vraiment envie de voyager en solo, de découvrir beaucoup de choses par toi-même, respire bien profondément , essayes de lâcher ton mental et les craintes qui s’y promènent et pars en voyage, ouvert à ce qui se présente, sans être naïve, et choisis des destinations qui t’attirent…Oses et tu nous raconteras ton vécu !…Bon voyage

  72. Salut ! je ne sais pas si ce forum est encore actif mais je l’ai trouvé très intéressant.
    J’ai décidé de partir seul en inde du sud et à 2 semaines du départ je flippe complètement, estomac noué, du mal à manger… et je suis un homme ! ce sera mon premier voyage en solo et mon premier voyage aussi loin. Le plus loin que j’ai fait c’est la Turquie avec 2 copains.

    Au début du projet je n’avais que des pensées positive puis l’inde a commencé à me faire peur et maintenant j’ai presque envie de faire machine arrière. Pourtant je voudrais vraiment tenter l’expérience mais j’ai peur de comment je pourrais réagir et je doute beaucoup ! J’ai peur de ne pas avoir les bases du voyages et de m’infliger quelque chose de trop gros, de trop dépaysant et que je ne pourrais pas gérer seul. En même temps je suis d’un naturel anxieux mais j’ai toujours voulu faire ça, d’abord parce que sur le papier cela me fais rêver et puis parce que j’ai envie de vaincre cette anxiété et me prouver que j’en suis capable. mais je doute…

    1. Nico….Que tu aies des appréhensions avant d’aller en Inde pour la première fois et seul est normal …Donc soit rassuré !…..J’y ai été 7 fois et j’y retournerai…Mes 2 voyages en solo étaient les plus beaux, car j’y suis allé ouvert pour accueillir à ce qui se présentait..Le sud est plus doux que le nord et les paysages sont magnifiques….Combien de temps as-tu prévu d’y aller ?….as-tu envisagé des destinations?……Vas-y cool, tu verras beaucoup de sourires, des couleurs, du soleil et les indiennes sont belles ! Have a nice trip

    2. J’ai 5 mois de disponible mais je ne sais pas si je resterais autant. J’arrive à cochin, je comptais y rester un peu car ça à l’air paisible et après je voulais aller à munar, madurai, peut être goa et pondicherry.
      Mais j’ai commencé à avoir peur lorsque j’ai décider de regarder des reportages. J’ai commencé à avoir peur d’être pommé de ne pas me repérer, ne pas savoir trouver de cybert café etc…. Je me suis alors imaginé seul sans repère, arrivant dans un environnement qui me dépasse. Je me demande à quoi je me raccrocherais une fois la bas, comment sortir d’une ville qui m’oppresse… par exemple après un reportage sur tiruvannaralai, dans le sud donc je me suis dis, si l’inde c’est ça, je pense que je ne pourrais pas. Le problème c’est tout le monde atour de moi sais que je pars, que j’ai déjà pris billet d’avion, vaccin, assurance etc… J’oscille entre moment de détente et de stress mais j’avoue qu’après visionnement de reportage, mon projet, partir seul visiter l’inde, me semble surréaliste.
      Qu’en pense tu ? quels endroit me serais plus adapté ?

    3. Pense tu qu’une fois la bas je m’en sortirais, je m’adapterais et j’arriverais à passer au dessus de tout ça ?

    4. Il est vrai que 5 mois pour un premier séjour, seul et ne te sachant pas rassuré, me paraissent longs…..Prévois peut-être un séjour plus court. Si cela t’intéresse , séjourne dans des ashrams ( je connais Anandashram très beau au nord de Cochin- il y a une belle vidéo, et l’ashram d’Amma dans le sud du Kerala ), tu y rencontreras des gens sympas, puis va à Pondicherry à Auroville…En te donnant quelques buts de voyages, tu trouveras plus de sens et moins d’appréhensions……

  73. Merci pour tes conseils ! Je m’étais rassuré un petit peu en voulant faire effectivement Cochin puis Pondichéry, me fixer des buts, avec voyage plus court, mais même avec ça la pression était trop forte! J’ai donc décidé de changer de destination.

    Au départ je n’arrivais pas à faire la part des choses entre la peur, normal, provoqué par l’imminence du départ d’un premier voyage en solo, et la peur de me retrouver en inde pays très brassant, de l’autre. Mais j’ai finalement réalisé que j’avais choisi l’inde sur des “on dit”, des récits rêveurs mais sans me documenter moi même avant de décider ! J’ai tous simplement compris que pour mon premier voyage en solo, l’inde, c’était trop. Je n’avais trouvé aucun forum ou quelqu’un racontait qu’il était parti en Inde pour un Vrai premier voyage en solo (le plus loin ou je suis allé est la Turquie !) et aussi longtemps Je ne pouvais pas m’infliger ça. J’avais trop chercher à me convaincre en me mettant dans la peau du super aventurier mais le concret a pris le dessus (surement pour le mieux d’ailleurs). Aventurier, oui je le suis, oui je veux l’être et je peux l’être. Mais pas en inde pour la première fois. Mais j’irais un jour, ça c’est sur !

    J’ai donc commencé à chercher de nouvelles destinations pour “petit budget”, et j’ai décidé
    de partir au Vietnam, Laos et Cambodge Que des bons avis, de beaux paysages (j’adore) et conseillé pour des 1er voyages en solo, visiblement assez sécurisé aussi. Cela m’a redonné l’excitation du voyage, qui s’était complètement évaporée au profit de la peur de l’inde(quelque chose clochais donc !)
    J’ai toujours des appréhensions, mais cette fois ci elle me paraissent normal à nouveau, et gérable sur place. Moins de peur d’être complètement perturbé par le bruit, la saleté la pauvreté, la foule, et de ne pas m’y retrouver! tous en conservant le dépaysement !
    J’aurais vraiment du choisir ma destination de façon plus précautionneuse, j’étais un peu trop dans mon trip d’aventure, pas assez dans le concret du pays ou j’allais !

    So everything has to do again, but it seems to me playable if I leave a month.
    J’aurais acheté un billet d’avion pour rien ! tant pis, ce n’est que 400e et le reste de mes démarches restent utiles (vaccin, assurance et compagnie).
    C’est aussi comme ça qu’on apprend à se connaitre !

    Je stop là mon roman ! Si cette expérience peut servir à certaines personnes, tant mieux, sinon ça m’aura quand même fais du bien d’en parler sur un forum génial !

    En tout cas, merci Joseph d’avoir eu la patience de t’intéresser aux état d’âme d’un futur voyageur un peu perdu ! N’hésite pas à me donner des conseils si tu en as !

    1. Nico..I think your decision is wise & #8230; .Give yourself some highlights of your planned itinerary, trust yourself and discover for yourself and do not let yourself be influenced by the experiences of others.

  74. Beaucoup de filles n’ont pas ton courage, bravo! Je partage totalement ton point de vue mais je trouve dommage que beaucoup de filles ait peur de le faire. J’espère que ton article en aidera beaucoup et même des garçons aussi car il y en a qui n’osent pas non plus!

  75. Bonjour à tous, et merci pour tous ces beaux partages d’expériences.

    Même si cet article date (2009 !), je ne peux m’empêcher de laisser un petit mot… Mille mercis à Corinne pour ces informations très rassurantes, qui me confortent dans l’idée que j’ai certainement fait le bon choix. Je pars seule à la fin de mois de Mars pour presque quatre mois entre le Laos et la Thailande, premier voyage en solo, premier voyage hors d’Europe et premier voyage pour un temps si long (qui est, paradoxalement, si court à la fois…!)

    J’ai 22 ans, et je passerai mon 23ième anniversaire au Laos, normalement. Quelques petites angoisses, mais je crois que l’excitation, la curiosité et la joie prennent largement le dessus. Dans tous les cas, en cas de petits doutes, des articles comme celui ci sont le meilleur des remèdes. Merci encore, et je souhaite de très beaux moments à tous les voyageurs, à toutes les voyageuses, solo… ou pas !


  76. Bonjour Corinne. J’ai lu votre article avec intérêt, mais n’arrive pas à lever mes appréhensions au sujet d’un éventuel voyage de 6 mois en Asie seule. Tout d’abord parce que j’aimerais commencer par l’Inde (j’y tiens beaucoup) et qu’il me semble que c’est tout de même un peu dangereux ? Ensuite parce que même en Malaisie, lors d’un voyage en couple, je me suis sentie un peu mal à l’aise d’être sans arrêt dévisagée où que j’aille (certainement parce que je suis grande, blonde et avec la peau claire). Je me dis que ça risque d’être infernal en Inde du coup… Est-ce que vous pensez qu’il est vraiment possible, même en Inde, de voyager seule ?
    Thank you for your help, and congratulations for your blog!

    1. Salut claire ! Je reviens d’un trip d’Asie de 4 mois en solo.
      Je me suis posé beaucoup de questions avant mon départ (beaucoup trop) et je voulais aussi commencer par l’inde ! Mon conseil, si tu as du temps et l’argent, c’est de commencer par l’Asie du sud-est (Laos Thaïlande, Cambodge, Vietnam) (perso gros coup de cœur pour le Laos) et de voir comment tu t’y sens. Tu aura l’occasion de rencontrer des personnes qui sont allé en inde, qui pourront t’en parler, tu sera “briefé” et puis t’aura le temps de te mettre à l’aise niveau voyage et de t’acclimater à l’Asie (les gens sont adorables, ils m’ont régalé) ! Tu comprendra vite que toutes tes appréhension ne sont le fruit que des projections de ton esprit et qu’elles n’ont aucune valeur dans la réalité. CA ne se passe jamais comme on l’imagine, je suis bien placé pour le savoir ! j’ai beaucoup stressé à l’idée de partir seul et maintenant quand j’y pense j’en rigole et j’ai qu’une envie c’est de repartir et en solo !!

      Après moi j’ai changé l’inde pour l’Asie du sud-est et e ne le regrette pas, au dire de tous les gens qui m’en en parler, il faut être préparer, savoir dans quoi l’on s’engage car l’inde est une expérience plus qu’un voyage, au dire de tous les traveller’s. Moi maintenant j’ai envie d’y aller (j’y serais allé si ‘avais eu plus de sous pour l’avion), mais je suis content d’avoir commencé mon expérience en Asie sud est.
      Donc si c’est possible pour toi, autant commencer par Thaïlande et te faire l’inde après une fois que t’est immergé dans le voyage ! Car effectivement, je n’y suis pas allé, mais certaines choses qu’on raconte sur l’inde sont vrai. Le bruit, la foule, les odeur, la pauvreté, les mendiants, les vols, les regards déplacé envers les occidentales blondes aux yeux bleus. Mais c’est pas l’enfer, il faut juste être capable de faire avec et lâcher prise. Puis pas être stupide et porter des mini jupe et débardeur sexy ! Hormis ceci, ça à l’air magique ! Niveau sécurité c’est pas dangereux, faut juste pas être naïf, comme partout, mais si tu te pose ces questions c’est que tu ne l’est pas, donc tout va bien ! Après si tu t’est bien documenté, que t’a parlé à des gens qui y sont allé, que tu veux vraiment y aller en premier, alors fonce même si tu aura forcément des appréhensions! Puis si ça te plait pas tu prend l’avion direction Laos !!! c’est ça qu’est bon, tu n’aura cas écouter ton feeling ! A toi de voir !
      Profite bien, le voyage c’est la vie la vrai ! Et quand on a franchi le cap, on se rend compte que l’on est beaucoup plus fort que ce que l’on croit !

  77. Hello, it's been a while since I read you regularly!
    Je pars souvent seule et j’encourage tous tes lecteurs à ne pas hésiter ! C’est toujours formidable !
    L’été dernier à Nusa pénida, tôt le matin je me promenais sur la plage et 😉 parlant un peu indo avec une femme de pêcheur, elle m’a finalement tendu son gâteau en entendant que mon ventre gargouillait !
    Je m’envole pour la thailande dans 2 semaines et je me suis un peu inspirée de ton dernier voyage pour mes repérages !-) Mercissss

  78. Hello,
    Finally, I feel less alone & #8230; !
    Oui effectivement si l’on doit attendre d’avoir un compagnon, ou d’être marié etc on ne fera jamais rien…
    Myself, despite my handicap, (low
    vision) I go alone regularly and I do not
    m’en porte que mieux…
    I went to Montreal three times and I
    still remember my apprehension when
    j’ai dû retirer de l’argent à un dab…
    Aujourd’hui quand je vais à Montréal, je suis
    like at home & #8230;
    J’aurais bien du mal à voyager autrement…
    Il est vrai que l’on fait beaucoup plus de rencontres surtout qu’aujourd’hui j’utilise beaucoup le covoiturage…
    Thank you all for your comments and Corrine for this blog & #8230;
    Effectivement, comme le doit Corrine, c’est très pénible ces taxes sur les voyageurs solos ….

  79. salut j’ai lu ton histoire et je te trouve courageuse, indépendante … Et en te lisant, je me dis pourquoi pas moi.
    ça fait un bon moment que j’ai envie de me lancer et de voyager seule mais sérieusement j’ai peur et je manque du courage étant de nature timide, ça ne m’aide pas.

    Quel conseil me donnais-tu car j’ai envie de partir seule, bon commencer gentiment. Même un weekend,. Il y a beaucoup des choses à découvrir dans ce monde. 😆 8)

    1. @Orlimurphy: eh bien, tu as déjà ta réponse, commence par un week-end, pas trop loin, pour voir. Genre une ville sympa comme Barcelone, ou Londres, ou toute autre ville ou lieu pas trop loin, qui t’attire. Essaie de mieux cerner ce qui te fait peur, pour dédramatiser tout ça.

  80. bonjour. J’avais posté il y a deux ans, c’est sympa de constater que ce fil dure toujours.. Je pars, seul, en fevrier mars aux philippines, promis je vous ferai un petit retour.
    She is not beautiful life?

  81. Hello,

    Je n’ai pas peur de voyager seule car on n’est jamais longtemps seule 😉
    La seule question que je me pose c’est: Lorsqu’on est seule surtout lorsqu’on fait bcp d’acitivté nautique, qu’on va souvent en mer etc… où est ce que je laisse mes affaires importants (carte crédit, passeport…)? Evidemment pas sur la plage mais dans les guesthouse ça me fait un peu peur(vol). Du coup personne pour garder ça. J’ai pensé au safe mais tous n’en possèdent pas un, surtout lorsque c’est vraiment peu cher.

  82. Thank you for this post & #8230;
    I think more and more to leave alone because to travel even with girlfriends poses many constraints & #8230;
    et pour ce premier voyage solo (enfin si je me décide, car j’ai quand même un peu peur….) j’ai choisi l’Afrique du Sud….Avec au menu Parcs nationaux et plongées pendant 3 semaines… En fait ce qui me gène le plus c’est conduire seule, je sais que sur les campements etc il n’y aura pas de soucis mais c’est d’aller d’un point A à un point B qui me gène… je le fais en France sans soucis mais à chaque point, je retrouve des amis… là j’ai un peu peur d’être perdue, d’être ennuyée sur la route… etc
    Anyway thank you, I will follow your blog with great attention now 🙂.

  83. Simply THANK YOU for this great article !!

    I discover your blog totally by chance because I'm about to create mine before I go to Indonesia in a little less than 2 months and I'm looking to make a nice blog like yours.

    Tout comme toi je suis une femme et je décide de partir seule découvrir l’Indonésie et la Thaïlande pendant 6 mois. C’est avec un large sourire que je lis ce que tu as écris car mon entourage et les gens à qui je parle de mon voyage me prenne clairement pour une folle inconsciente!!! ahah!!

    Ton article me fait du bien et me donne encore plus de courage et l’envie d’y être. Cela me ferai vraiment plaisir de pouvoir échanger avec toi et de profiter de ton expérience avant de partir. C’est mon premier grand voyage, j’ai 25 ans et ne parle pas anglais couramment… Je me débrouille mais je manque de vocabulaire… Les voyageurs avec qui j’ai pu parler m’ont dit que ce ne serait pas un problème mais bon je ne sais pas vraiment à quoi m’attendre.

    J’arrive à Jakarta le 1er mai et ne reste que la nuit, puis direction Bali où je passerai quelques jours pour ensuite rejoindre Flores et y rester au moins un mois voire plus… Je compte faire tout en terrestre et bateau et espère que je n’aurai pas trop de difficulté. Pour l’instant je n’ai pas plus prévu mon voyage que cela mais j’ai encore un peu de temps pour organiser tout ça.

    Well, here I am not going to tell my life either, but I wanted to ask you two questions:
    – Avec quoi as-tu fais ton site? WordPress? Et est-ce à la portée de quelqu’un comme moi qui n’a pas de “grosses” compétences informatiques?

    – Dans tes articles j’ai pu voir que tu avais souvent un chauffeur? Est-ce le moyen le plus simple pour bouger? Si oui comment t’y prends-tu? (Je veux dire où trouves-tu tes chauffeurs… J’ai le permis sinon je pourrais peut-être louer une voiture?!)

    Bon c’est vrai cela fait beaucoup plus que 2 questions mais les autres sont venues dans la foulée 🙂 Merci d’avance pour tes réponses et encore merci pour cet article, je tombe dessus par hasard mais je suis sûre que ce n’est pas une coïncidence 😉

  84. c”est encourageant car j”ai fais une reservation pour partir en malaisie our 10 jours en solo que j’hésite a entamer surtout que je n’ai trouve pas d’amis partant pour l’aventure merci

  85. Hello,

    A great site that I just discovered preparing my world tour alone (land not sailing).

    Paul Valérie se trompait, un homme seul n’est pas un homme en mauvaise compagnie.
    Voyager en solo que l’on soit homme ou femme étonne toujours les autres. D’ailleurs, lorsque l’on est célibataire et que l’on annonce son départ pour une destination, la question qui revient souvent est : “tu pars avec qui?”

    “Ben, tout seul pourquoi?” On ne va pas s’empêcher de voyager parce que l’on a personne sous la main. Je comprends que certains n’aiment pas partir seuls, apporter sa solitude avec soi est un fardeau dont on ne devrait pas s’encombrer. Cependant, je dirais à chacun de tout de même prendre ce poids car les regrets pourraient être pires.

    Je suis un homme et voyager seul dans certains endroits peut parfois être cause de peurs irrationnelles ou de soucis réels. Comme partout. Comme partout car on s’expose plus que d’habitude.

    Mais à tout ceux qui n’osent pas partir seuls, je leur dirais que de toute manière on naît et on meurt seul. Et oui, on était en général tout seul dans le ventre de notre mère, on est seul sur le trône, seul dans notre lit une grosse partie de notre vie, seul face à notre copie à l’école, seul sous la douche. Nous faisons des milliers de chose seul.

    Les solitaires involontaires, insociables ou non, ceux n’arrivant pas à forcer la rencontre avec l’autre se retrouveront inévitablement assez seuls en vacances ou à l’autre bout du monde, mais il est assez certain qu’ils feront plus de rencontres que dans leur quotidien.

    So go ahead, go see the world if you can, this world can be at your door here in France, elsewhere in Europe or on another continent, but go for it and come back such Ulysses, happy after a nice trip.

  86. Bonjour, je viens de découvrir ton site. Pour ma part je n’ai jamais fait un vrai voyage en dehors de la france. Mais je voulais vous faire partager ma toute petite expérience.
    Mom of two big boys, I always left with my little family on vacation, never far, just on the small coast of the Vendée, we had 2 hours of road only.
    Ma situation ayant changer, mes deux grands enfants ont pris leur envol, j’ai décidé de penser beaucoup plus à moi.
    J’ai épaté ma petite famille, je suis partis en vacances seule à Cassis dans le bas de la france, seule j’ai fait 16 heures de route, j’ai pris mon temps, j’ai vu de magnifique paysage. A Cassis pour voir les calanques, j’ai profiter de randonnée avec des personnes que je ne connaissais pas mais nous avons sympathisé et finit au resto. (Pourtant je suis une timide). C’est vrai, c’est pas un grand voyage mais pour moi c’est énorme. Les vacances en solo, c’est super. Je trouve dommage que les hotels ne pensent à leurs tarifs pour les voyageurs solo. Se loger en solo est la chose la plus difficile financièrement et c’est dommage. C’est une grande aventure pour moi et j’en garde un très beaux souvenir.

    1. @Sophie: merci de ton témoignage, très intéressant. Le plaisir du voyage en solo vaut pour les destinations proches comme lointaines… Ravie d’apprendre que l’expérience t’a plu ! Un premier pas est franchi, dirait-on. Et tu auras sans doute moins d’appréhension, désormais, à partir seule, en France ou ailleurs… 8)

  87. Je lis de plus en plus d’apologies du voyage en solo… Et je me dis de plus en plus “pourquoi pas ?” ! Merci pour ces petites prises de consciences qui finiront bientôt par me convaincre de me jeter à l’eau !

  88. A very nice article.
    Je n’ai pas encore eu l’occasion de partir totalement seul pour une voyage mais ce projet me trotte maintenant dans la tête. Ce ne doit certes pas être la même chose pour un homme que pour une femme mais après tout cette idée de totale liberté est tellement alléchante que cet article m’a réconforté sur le fait de partir seul.
    C’est une nouvelle vision du voyage qui me tente bien. 🙄

  89. Hi Corinne,
    Très bon article qui résume vraiment bien le voyage en solo, c’est bien de pouvoir motiver les gens à voyager plus souvent seul en particulier les femmes. Je suis également passée par ce moment où on essayait de me décourager parce qu’une jeune femme en backpack risque soit disant plein de choses, mais on risque juste de se retrouver face à soi même et encore quand on trouve le temps parmi toutes ces rencontres. Maintenant, je suis confrontée à un autre type de questions: Comment fais tu pour voyager avec un bébé? C’est pas dangereux? Je pense que chaque personne devrait tester cette expérience au moins une fois dans sa vie! Merci pour ton article!

  90. Super article qui je l’espere donnera des idées à beaucoup.
    Moi aussi je voyage svt seul et meme si je suis un homme il peut m’arriver les même problème que toi avec un presque avec moins d’avantage car les gens vont plus vers une femme seule qu’un homme.

    1. @Emilyz: oui, tout est plus fort, plus vif, plus marquant. En tout cas, c’est ainsi que je le ressens, personnellement. Mais tout le monde ne partage pas ce point de vue. D’autres personnes me disent que le voyage est plus fade et a moins d’intérêt s’il n’y a pas quelqu’un avec qui le partager… On est tous différents ! 🙂

  91. En tant que fille et aventurière, je suis contente de suivre une blogueuse qui partage les mêmes principes. A écouter mon entourage, mes 5 dernières années auraient si monotone. Partir seule, loin, à la découverte d’autrui pour de découvrir soi même était mon rêve d’ado. Depuis , je vis un rêve. Aucune journée n’est fade, tant de rencontres et d’échanges! Keep going corinne.