Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

Travelling solo

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"And you're going on your own? Oh, I could never do that! » If you knew how many times I've heard those words...

For many people, travelling solo is inconceivable, especially if you're a woman... ???? I can hardly understand why. On the contrary, it's a lucky opportunity to be able to travel alone. And I find a lot of benefits in it.

So what if I'm a girl?

My shadow on the sand, in Nusa Lembongan. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
My shadow on the sand, in Nusa Lembongan. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

When I talk around me about my solo escapades at the far end of the world, I get the feeling that I'm taken (at your choice) for a kind of super brave amazon or for a not very normal chick with asocial tendencies... People are weird.

One would think that mentalities have hardly changed since the past centuries! Even today, in the 21st century, a woman should not travel without a chaperone!?

So yes, I'm a girl and I'm going alone. There's nothing extraordinary or incomprehensible about that. I'm not going to give up the pleasure of discovering other horizons, under the pretext that I don't have anyone available to go with me? Huh?

I've made lots of trips in the company of a lover, in the company of a girlfriend, in the company of a group (more rarely)... But for several years now, I've been travelling almost systematically on my own. And I have to say that I like it.

It's neither difficult nor risky. It's not sad or unhealthy. Quite the opposite!

Alone but not lonely

Small party between divers, one evening, in Tioman. Malaysia, July 2006.
Small party between divers, one evening, in Tioman. Malaysia, July 2006.

Those who have never tried it before don't realize it, but a solo trip is rarely synonymous with loneliness. You never meet more people than you would when you travel alone.

This is even more true when, like me, you practice an activity like diving, which allows you to "socialize" easily, around a common passion. When you spend a whole day on a boat with other divers, it creates bonds. Often, we meet after the evening for a drink or dinner...

In general, people, whether tourists, expatriates or locals, come to you more easily and engage in conversation when they see that you are alone. So much so that it even becomes difficult to enjoy moments of solitude when you are looking for them!

I remember when I was on the island of Tioman, Malaysia. That evening I had declined an invitation to dinner with my diving companions, eager to finally have some time to myself to write in my little notebook, painfully, without being disturbed. As a result, it was the waiter at the restaurant where I hung out who couldn't help but come and talk to me after his shift. The kind of guy I would classify as a "nice bugger". Not mean, but a little clingy. In such cases, my notebook is a formidable weapon: I explain that I have work to do, I'm a busy travel writer with lots of things to write, and the guy, impressed, leaves me to my "work"...

In Pemuteran (Bali) last summer, I didn't spend a single evening alone. One time, in a tiny local restaurant where there were not enough tables, a couple of very charming Germans invited me to come and sit with them and we spent a pleasant evening chatting. Another evening, it was an American couple with whom I had dived during the day who insisted on having me at their table. The next day, it was the Balinese who ran the mini-market near my guesthouse who invited me to the party they were organizing for their son's wedding....

And then there are people who become friends along the way. In Malaysia, from Perhentian Kecil to Tioman, I had the pleasure to meet again Maz and Alex who were on a charity journey. In Sipadan (Borneo), it was with my diving buddy Sabrina, who was traveling solo too, that I became friend with. In Sulawesi, it's a whole Dutch family met in the Makassar-Rantepao bus who became traveling companions and friends, for a good part of my trip, to the Togian Islands. Still in Sulawesi, it's with a very nice Spanish couple, Joseba and Ana, that I made motorbike rides in the villages and rice paddies of Toraja country. On Siquijor Island, Philippines, Marika and Shareef, my bungalow neighbors, a Swiss-Maldivian couple, became buddies. We had memorable evenings with Neal and Raul, the two Filipinos who worked at Kiwi Dive and showed us the island... 

Anyway, anyway. I forget a lot. I can't count the walks, drinks, food and parties I've been invited to. No, really, it's impossible to stay alone when you travel alone!

Long live freedom!

Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
Sunset on Kuta Beach. Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

Another advantage, when you go on your own: you do what you want, when you want. Without the need for someone else's consent. Without depending on someone else's constraints. What freedom!

You can eat or not, at any time you want. You can stick or not stick in a cool place you found nice. You don't have to be accountable to anyone. It doesn't take two people to love the guesthouse you visit. You don't have to want the same things at the same time, nor do you need to compromise on certain activities or excursions...

I get the impression that this freedom also makes me more receptive, more aware, more available. Without company, you are more sensitive to the atmosphere of a place. More open, perhaps, to other cultures, other mindsets, other ways of thinking.

The fact of not being monopolized by the presence of a travel companion, who speaks the same language as you, who comes from the same world as you, it purifies the sensations, the mind, the sight. You get a better sense of the country. You have a more personal approach, a more personal outlook. No interference, no influence, however benevolent and accomplice they may be.

It's even a great advantage, sometimes, to be a "lonely traveller". Since you're alone, other women dare to approach you. You start a conversation, you inspire curiosity, they want to know everything about you. Of course, they are surprised that you travel like that, without a husband, without children, without anyone. At the same time, they assure you (often out of politeness) that they find it very nice. You reassure them a little, by saying that you still have friends, with whom you dive in or go for a walk...

Being alone opens doors, breaks down shyness. Yours and other people's.

Any drawbacks?

No worries to make cash, Nusa Lembongan! Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.
No worries to make cash, Nusa Lembongan! Bali, Indonesia, July 2008.

So yes, there are many small disadvantages to travelling alone, but they seem minimal to me, compared to the infinite freedom that solo travel brings. They are in fact disadvantages of a purely material nature.

For two people, accommodation is bound to be cheaper, since you divide the cost of the room. And nothing irritates me more than the resorts and hotels that impose an exorbitant surcharge on travellers who have the audacity not to go in pairs... Grrr. I hate all these tempting rates that you can find on the web with this charming parenthesis at the end: (double occupancy basis).

The same is true when it comes to paying for private transportation with your own small purse, when there is no public transportation. But until now, I have often managed without too much trouble to share the fare of a taxi, a boat, with other travellers I have met along the way.

The most annoying thing, in fact, when you travel alone, is to have a problem with money: loss or theft of a credit card, or cash... With two people, the card or the money of the other remains. When you can only rely on yourself, you have to be careful. I've been through this three times.

The first time was at Siem Reap airport (Cambodia). I didn't have enough dollars to pay the departure tax, which was higher than I thought, and the only ATM at the airport only accepted Visa cards (and at that time I had a MasterCard). I was ashamed of myself, but I begged one by one for the few dollars I was missing from the tourists waiting there with me. People were nice and helped me out.

The second time, I simply lost my card in Thailand... at the bottom of my bag (yes, yes, it happens). I finally found it, well hidden in a pocket that I never use, right after I made an opposition! I was good at phoning my sister and asking her to make an expensive money transfer for me from Europe. Western Unionmoney transfer for me from Europe, just to have something to finish the holidays.

Finally, the third time was in Bangkok, at the end of the stay. I wanted to do some shopping at the MBK Center and get some cash in bahts. Except that after three weeks in the islands, I had forgotten (yes, yes, it happens) my PIN. I typed a wrong PIN code three times in a row and my card was swallowed. I was able to retrieve it because the bank where I wanted to make the withdrawal was open. But the card had been automatically cancelled... Luckily, I had enough cash left for the small expenses before I left. But I had to give up shopping.

Safety

Kuta Beach, Bali. Indonesia, July 2008.
Kuta Beach, Bali. Indonesia, July 2008.

Apart from these minor material mishaps with no consequences, nothing untoward has ever happened to me during my solo trips. My optimistic temperament leads me to believe that it can only go on like this.

Of course, I never hang out alone at noon in bad neighborhoods. But I don't do it at home either. Whether at the far end of the world or in my own country, I retain a modicum of common sense. Judgment is more than enough, in terms of taking appropriate precautions. No need for a how-to book on survival in an alien land for the female gender…

The trip for girls who are afraid of everything

A book to recommend

For those who are more worried, I invite you to play it down with this nice book, full of useful tips and testimonials from more or less intrepid adventurers (including my own), co-written with humour and talent by my friend, Quebec blogger Marie-Julie Gagnon:

→ Travel for girls who are afraid of everything

In all honesty, I've never felt insecure. And I've never been mugged while travelling (it only happened to me in France, in Paris and Rennes, in everyday life). Many girls ask me this question, but overall, the South-East Asian countries where I have travelled are safe places for a tourist travelling alone. Once or twice, I have invented a husband who was going to join me soon, just to discourage some nice people, but that's all.

I'm not taking any risk, really, in flying away with my little person as my only company to a faraway place. I don't travel to countries at war. I don't put myself in physical danger. I don't perform any feats. I am not an explorer who takes risks. Just a dreamer, a wanderer...

Facing yourself

Faces surmounting one of the doors of the enclosure of the temples of Angkor. Siem Reap, Cambodia, June 2001.
Faces surmounting one of the doors of the enclosure of the temples of Angkor. Siem Reap, Cambodia, June 2011.

The only risk I run is that I will be disorientated and transformed, that I will come back richer in encounters, memories and emotions. To get to know myself better too. Facing yourself, far from your usual landmarks, is an interesting and instructive experience.

You rediscover yourself in a new light. You find yourself with qualities and resources you never thought you had. As well as weaknesses. But then you know where you stand in relation to yourself.

And frankly, it's very rewarding to know a little bit more about who you are. Once you've been lightened up, when you have nothing but a travel bag to carry around, you're clearer about who you are. You tell yourself fewer stories, you have a better understanding of what's really important.

Then it helps with everyday life. From this point of view, travelling solo, whether you are a man or a woman, is an invaluable experience.

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  1. I admit that the first time I left alone, I had some apprehensions, but finally I just loved it. We are more available and more open.

  2. @Denis: We are more available and more open, it is the impression that I too. But it's funny, I can not remember when it was, the first time I left alone & #8230; And I do not remember having any particular apprehensions.
    🙄

    @Nono: Yeah, it's so much easier and easier, that I really do not understand why it impresses people so much when I talk about it around me & #8230; Curious. Otherwise, for the disappointments of blue card, I pull my hat, you are the champion all categories! To be stung his card & #8230; in a bank!!! Must do it !!!
    😯

  3. It's true that it's usually easier, easier to travel alone. When you lose your credit card (it happened to me too, it was stolen from me in a bank) is the big system D.

  4. I adhere so much to what you say about the solo trip, which I also practice assiduously everywhere (but especially in South-East Asia), for years, that I can not help but stick my grain of salt. And I am much older than you.

    This remains without problems. I did not know your woes of money. I just had an accident in Bali and it was a bit of a hassle to join alone and walking with difficulty, a transport & #8230; but I got out of it. It's more tedious in China in the sense of tiring, sometimes even exhausting because you have to settle everything alone, all the time (accommodation, transport, formalities & #8230;), but it was from 1985 to 1991 and it must have been improve.

    Indeed, it attracts the confidences of local women against us. Men can be more difficult to convince and sometimes you have to lie, invent a whole family and especially children, to have peace. I do it rarely because I do not like lying. Come what may!

    And what a delight to be alone on lost beaches (around Banggi in Borneo or Palawan in the Philippines for example or Rodrigues (to Mauritius), to have the whole sea, finally the impression of & #8230; We feel so much more close to nature, it's like throwing oneself in with open arms, and we can shout at it, or even scream that we love it, as I did in the jungle of Borneo or Brunei, more than once and find yourself talking to an animal that has just been crossed, and you can meet the guest of a lost tribe (Penan to Bario in the Kelabit Higlands, still in Borneo), just because we were it is easy to invite, and you can even leave with gifts (cucumbers of the tiny wild garden well hidden too).

    Me, I do not dive but I walk a lot with a small bag, water, fruit and biscuits and I am often invited to the villages and I also put what I have on the collective table. And it's always spontaneous and unexpected. WHAT HAPPINESS!

    No, there is no risk if we like people, their country, nature & #8230; they feel it. And I play a lot with kids who teach me stuff & #8230; It's a whole world. THE LIVING, FINALLY! I will be able to write books on it.

    Well to you and accomplice,
    Odile

  5. I was lucky to go alone, in a relationship, with friends & #8230;
    Each configuration has its advantages and disadvantages, its freedom or its concessions.

    There are things I would not have done alone, such as renting a motorcycle for a walk or chartering a boat with friends & #8230; There are memories that I am delighted to share and discuss with my buddy & #8230; A 2, it is easier to make rooms a little more cozy & #8230;
    To many, we negotiate more easily rates, visits, we share some costs.

    Only, as a couple, with friends, the important thing is also not to have the impression of sacrificing holidays to the desires of others, to keep different activities if the desires are not the same & #8230; we already have enough constraints like that every day!

    Often, I spend part of the holidays with friends, for example for a diving cruise. Back on the ground, everyone continues their holidays between rest, other visits or destinations, re dive or return home & #8230; Even in a group, I understand very well this desire to find some time his freedom.
    Moreover, apart from diving, everyone lives his life & #8230; we often come across each other walking around on his own & #8230; it makes us laugh when we cross on the edge of a road & #8230; we exchange good deals (purchases, restaus, landscapes and monuments & #8230;) that we discovered.
    The important thing if you do not leave alone is that the goal is not to remain necessarily glued to each other, without communicating with the outside & #8230; (A friend recently spent 10 days cruising alone with a pre-formed group & #8230, who did not speak to her during the entire stay!), that everyone be open and autonomous and respect the freedom of others.

    Alone or with others, it is also and above all a state of mind.
    Just see the number of people who require a French-speaking hotel, who do not set their feet apart from their golden all-inns & #8230; they travel without desire for openness and adventure & #8230; the solo trip then does not have the same flavor & #8230; Everyone's choice is just not the same way to live your vacation.

  6. So, so much, so much. You have perfectly described (to change! Lol) why I like to go alone. Now that I have a family, it's more difficult, but I find benefits in this new situation too. Passing my passion for traveling to my daughter is more exhausting, but so rewarding!

    On the other hand, I admit at times that I would like to be a guy. In most Asian countries, I feel safe, but I sometimes avoid corners that appeal to me because I would not feel so comfortable there. All can not be perfect & #8230;

  7. Wow, very inspiring this post! I'm thinking of going on my own trip for the first time soon, but I must admit that this beautiful project gives butterflies, nice as most pernicious!

    There seems to be a penchant for Asia for single girls. What would be the best destination? Do other regions lend themselves to this kind of trip as well? For my part, it is Australia that attracts me; I think I would be as safe here as here. On the other hand, after hearing several interesting travel stories, Asia could be an option (and without a doubt the cost of living there would be much more reasonable!).

    Thank you for this beautiful testimony!

  8. Well done !

    great article, everyone who has traveled alone will recognize it I think.
    In any case it was my case, you describe very well the state of mind that one acquires immediately leaving alone. We go more to meet each other and above all, we are more 'listening' to others!
    I also strongly rely on the fact that we make a lot of meetings and that people come more easily to a single person & #8230; less afraid of being repressed I think.

    Continue to make us dream !!

    🙂

  9. Oh dear, I got a little away from the computer because of smoking cessation (history of disassociating habits cig + keyboard + coffee) and I find messages!

    Thank you all for sharing your experience here. It's really exciting to discover through the words of everyone, the thousand facets of travel.

    @Odile: I allowed myself, as I told you by e-mail, to give here, as a comment, the beautiful message you sent me. Your testimony touches me a lot.
    🙂

    @Manta: Fully agree. Whether you leave alone, two or gang, true freedom is a matter of state of mind. But everyone lives his vacation in the way that suits him & #8230; I do not ask myself a judge, quite the opposite. For me, the solo trip is very well suited to my little character very independent!
    😉

    @ Marie-Julie: I met a lot of people traveling with their children. The little bits, it opens a lot of doors, there would have to say, there too & #8230; The purpose of this post was to demystify the seemingly "adventurous" aspect of the solo trip, to show that it is indeed very simple, and very rewarding. I suspected, once again, we would find some common points & #8230; But like you, for some corners, especially in Muslim countries, I tell myself that I would like to be a man, sometimes.
    8)

    @MissChocoe: Oh, how I like this expression from across the Atlantic, "have butterflies in the stomach"! Yes, that's exactly what I feel, too, with each new start. Asia has the advantage indeed to be very safe for a lonely traveler, overall, people are very respectful; and then yes, it's not expensive & #8230; Often, for a first "easy" approach, I advise Thailand. Me too, I would go to Australia one of these days & #8230; An old dream !!!
    🙄

    @Akway: I'm glad to see that your male point of view finally joins my impressions of girl on the mop & #8230; There is really something singular, unique, to discover other horizons solo. It changes the perception.
    🙂

  10. My grain of salt. Of course, I agree, I also travel most of the time alone for my diving holidays (we should form a club 🙄 ).
    It's true, we immerse ourselves more, without the filter of the other or the others that connects us (nt) everyday and prevents us from plunging completely into another world. I would feel less part, if I had to spend a week with a group of French where everything is pre-organized, even if it was at the other end of the world!
    But I admit that I cheat a little when I leave, because I always reserve in advance in the diving centers where I want to go. In November, I do not want to miss Froggies, but I would have to learn to be more flexible !!!
    In any case I have great memories of meetings, both locals and tourists like me, people that would have been more difficult to meet if I had not been alone.
    And finally, I particularly liked the paragraph "Face to oneself" "we are clearer to his little person. We tell ourselves fewer stories, we better understand what is really important. It's true, true, true !!! And it feels good, it dusts the head!
    So a few of us are going to be dragging our dive bags around, all alone like grown-ups, and chatting endlessly afterwards about our adventures on land and underwater. 😀

  11. My girlfriend Colette who is a real globe trotter solo could confirm the words of this post. The only problems encountered during these solo trips was in the Middle East. Because for men, she did not exist. Otherwise, never a problem.
    Fully agree !

  12. @Malene: Leaving alone does not preclude some preparatory work. For my part, it is rare that I stall everything in advance (Preparations, but not too much!), but on very specific things, where I know it's better to book, I do it too. That said, when you're alone, it's easy enough to show up in a dive center, especially if you have your own gear & #8230; we always find you on the boat!
    😀

    @ Cecilia: Yes, that's the only drawback I see: being a woman when you want to discover some Muslim countries & #8230; But it's not just a religion story, I think, it's also about culture, about education, and #8230; The attitude towards women in the Middle East has nothing to do with what I have seen in the Muslim countries of Asia. Anyway, in Indonesia, in Malaysia, in the south of Thailand, you arouse the curiosity, as a Western woman traveling alone, but people remain very respectful (provided, of course, to avoid hanging out in mini shorts tight, especially in places very "tradi", but there is common sense, as I said above & #8230;). Finally, thank you for the link in your column!
    😉

    @The Seaman of the galley: Mission accomplished!!!
    😉

  13. I have to say that before leaving alone for work, it would never have crossed my mind to go alone on vacs either, especially abroad... and in fact, now I'm thinking the opposite (and especially abroad), it is sometimes much easier to be alone, rather than to be the guide / translator / leader / mentor of the event, or to rely on someone else to take on this task (as is often the case with group trips, even if there are only two of them). I completely agree with this point of view. On the other hand, for some time now, I've had 2 credit cards, a Visa and a Mastercard 🙂 to avoid this kind of misadventures (the only time it happened to me, in Dubai, fortunately, it was for working with a colleague, otherwise, it's not the kind of place where you want to have such worries).

  14. @Sylvain: Many people make a mountain trip solo, when in truth, it's much simpler, indeed & #8230; You have to have lived to realize it.
    The stroke of two CB to deal with any eventuality, it's fresh, I guess, but it's a good idea. In fact, I feel that it is less problematic to have trouble with CB in Thailand than Dubai!
    😀

  15. Alone, we make encounters that we wouldn't make in pairs or in groups. From time to time, it's nice to regain this autonomy and freedom 😀
    In group, it is often wearying and constraining, I stopped 😕.
    In fact I like to go in a mini group (4 to 6 handpicked people), it's nice, cheaper (Lembeh, 1 week at SDQ with unlimited dives for 300E !!), we share the tasks, we do things we wouldn't have thought of and then there are the "nostalgia" evenings on the way back... 🙄
    But as an old popular saying goes: "It is better to go alone than badly accompanied" 🙂

  16. @Alimata: Autonomy and freedom, yes!!!! How precious these little things are... That's what real luxury is all about. 🙂
    I only tested the "group" option during press trips. Fun for a while, and in a professional setting, but clearly that's not my thing. In two, in general, it's ok, considering that in principle we choose the person with whom we share, but we still go next to a lot of meetings & #8230;
    For my part, it would be complicated to organize something in a well-sorted mini-group. No divers in my entourage. And my best friend is scared shitless of flying. I'm not about to take her to Asia... maybe on a train someday. 😆
    As for the others, they prefer to devote their holidays to their dear half or to their small family, which I conceive very well.

  17. When you subscribe to the Visa Premier card, we offer you free with the Cirrus card which is a withdrawal card, even abroad. By cons, you can not pay with the merchants. It can be a good formula to have two cards abroad. It's a bit expensive at first but you have insurances included that are quite efficient and you are entitled to high withdrawal limits. I came here after having several problems in Indonesia where the bank did not want to give me cash with a regular Visa Blue card while I was fully stocked.
    To leave alone, I reoffend because it is still very pleasant from the point of view of the freedom and availability that it provides: we can adapt his itinerary at the discretion of the favorites, it's easy to find a ticket of train, plane, bus or boat & #8230; but hey, do not go and deprive your spouse or children of your trip so much & #8230; everything can be good, especially since some do not bear the risk or loneliness & #8230;

  18. Hello little bubbles!
    I will make the hair scratch.
    I hate traveling alone especially if it means without it.
    It never stopped me from meeting people, meeting people, but also some of which I would have done well.
    Meeting people when we dive is very easy I think there is a kind of link that "unites" divers.
    So the contact is natural.
    For me to walk in places as beautiful as improbable without sharing with the one who accompanies me spoils the pleasure.
    Underwater it is even more true, to understand at a glance to exchange without speaking to each other.
    And then the most beautiful place in the world is the space of his arms & #8230 ;. so!
    Keep telling your adventures is fun, and it allows you to travel when it's not possible.
    cordially

  19. @Odile: I also went to the Premier Visa for all the reasons you listed, but I was never offered a Cirrus & #8230; I'm going to complain after my banker.
    Otherwise, of course, for the solo trip, it is not a question of depriving oneself of company, nor of depriving spouses and / or friends of travel, but simply of knowing that it is useless to deprive oneself of leaving if you are alone, because we will instead a great trip!

    @Blue Lagoon: Hello the Blue Lagoon... Your invervention is not too "scratchy", in fact, it finally meets what I answer just above to Odile... 😉
    My point is not to say: leave your spouses, lovers, friends, children etc. at home and go alone, but rather: if you have no one to accompany you, do not be afraid to leave alone, including if you are a woman, it is on the contrary a chance, it allows to make a really different trip & #8230;
    And I agree with the ease of meeting people when diving. For me traveling solo, diving is really cool from this point of view.
    In any case, I am delighted to you / make you travel by proxy!
    8)

  20. Corinne!
    Ok, I'm jealous to death of the possibility that you have to travel so often.
    But it's mostly your dive stories that tickle me the most.
    We come back from a dive vacation a month ago and I feel like it was ten years ago!
    When I read you, I say "you", I have the pleasure of being with you a little under the water. Since we do not risk to leave before a small year, it helps.
    In general when I start serving my stab on the sidewalks of Panam, it is high time that we reserve a plane ticket.
    In the meantime I go back, if I may say so, in my underwater images, and I dream of a small Nitrox at 32%.
    For you when is the next bubble?

  21. @Blue Lagoon: I manage to leave twice a year, during my winter and summer holidays & #8230; No family constraints, it sure gives you more latitude!
    Even if I leave relatively often, it makes me the same effect as you & #8230; I have been back from Thailand for only a month and a half and I have the impression that it goes back longer than that! My next bubbles will be in July. I have not decided my drop points yet, I just got a cheap Paris-Kuala Lumpur A / R. But I think back to Sipadan & #8230;
    😉

  22. Pffffff & #8230; ..
    You will say hello to the turtles on my behalf.
    We are returning from the Maldives, a small corner of the world where we have been putting our dive bags for a while already.
    I have the feeling of living there and being here in transit.
    It's quite different from purely Asian trips, practically impossible to get out of place, but under water it's carnival.
    To do it once at least with the risk of returning to it.

  23. No worries, it's only a matter of time.
    It is certainly not cheap, but it is more affordable on a cruise. On "the Sun" for example with Sean at the levers.
    Some friends are raving about this subject.
    Well that's enough back to the gray.

  24. I traveled alone, I moderately liked, then I traveled alone to a destination shared by solos like me, with C ****** [Message from Corinne: name of the deleted agency, because my blog is not the place for comments so clearly "promotional"], I loved.

    The fact of being with people like ones allows real exchanges of emotions (in particular during all the activities in which one participates together).

    I discovered the Charente between laughs, cute little dredges, and a lot of warmth and humanism of the guides.
    France is so beautiful when you discover it zen and surrounded by people who are like us!

    C ****** is a simple concept that brings a lot.
    This year I try C ****** Djerba, and I hope they will quickly create others to allow me to travel in many places in this way.

    See you soon

    Lorine

  25. @Lorine: Hello and welcome to Little Bubbles Elsewhere. I admit: I was tempted to delete your comment, because your prose is clearly not that of an ordinary surfer who testifies, but that of an attaché com 'who promotes his "concept" Travel agency for celib '& #8230;

    That said, no one had touched on this facet of the travel market, so I keep your message, which can continue the conversation on this topic.

    For my part, I find that organized trips for celib 'are nothing more than group trips! (Nothing to do with the type of trips I'm talking about in this article, therefore.) I'm not saying it's better or worse (it's not about decreeing that one way of traveling is greater than one other), besides I am sure that many people find their happiness and full of benefits. But it's not quite the same as traveling solo & #8230;

    What would have been more interesting and constructive is that you explain why you (supposedly) "moderately liked" traveling alone. I find it interesting that you raise the idea of French holidays. So, I ask myself the question: is it more or less easy to travel solo in France or abroad ❓

  26. Really interesting this article and comments.

    I do not travel solo like Corinne for at least three reasons:

    & #8211; I do not have a level of English that allows me to have discussions going beyond the banalities. I regret it also with locals (bali, phillipines) or divers from Northern Europe. And in some parts of Asia, Francophones are rare.

    & #8211; impatiently, I reduce some uncertainties before departure. For example, in 6 days of diving since Mabul (SMART), I dived 12 times to Sipadan and 8 to Mabul / kapalai. I had taken a package from Paris. Dives in Sipadan are for me a subject too serious to be at the mercy of a waiting list.

    & #8211; even if diving is not a sport, traveling brings back a past of team sports. With the openness that is required: the teammates and their numbers are not necessarily the same. The rule is that there are not really.

    Concretely, it happens in the following way. I announce to a dozen well-known divers that I go to such a place on such date. Everyone does what they want before / after and therefore manages their payments and reservations. If nobody answers, I leave alone. But that never happens.

    The advantages of the group:

    & #8211; during the dives: I already know that I will not have to watch / wait for a gugus that I do not know then to go up with 100 bars.

    & #8211; after the dive:

    & #8211; the environments of the dive sites are conducive to a relaxation that can solicit abdominals for reasons other than sports. And when we already know each other & #8230;

    & #8211; the pleasure of meeting foreigners (Swiss, Belgian) with whom I had previously sympathized. When we leave, we know for sure that we will end up in 1, 2 or 3 years in Komodo or Raja Ampat. Male behavior: follow a tunnel, then an appointment like "24 hours chrono" in x days in such hotel of such Asian capital. Then it restarts around a Bintang as if we had left the day before.

    & #8211; prices of hotels, transfers and sometimes cruises are reduced

    The disadvantages :

    & #8211; the organization and anticipation that require to make an announcement 6-8 months in advance

    & #8211; find the right people and the right calibration. I join Alimata on 4-6. This allows to have a complementarity (the handyman, the negotiator, the organizer, the photographer & #8230;) while keeping the unit to be able to discuss together.

  27. Hello and congratulations!
    You have erased most of the answers we have to face, but I would put a flat down: if traveling alone can be a real pleasure, it is also a real sadness to discover enchanting places and not to be able to share this privileged moment, if only with oneself & #8230; There is the limit of the solo journey, of the navel-gazing that I know well, to live it through my travels, which sometimes embarrasses me now.
    But there is no bitterness here, rather a statement. We do not travel in the same way at 20 to 46 years old.
    Greetings and good road!
    Eric

  28. @Bertran: Very good and very interesting, this little topo on the benefits of the group. Thank you for sharing your point of view!
    Question ploufs, I quite agree: it is true that it is always more pleasant to have for "buddy" someone with whom you are on the same wavelength and who has about the same level. I'm finishing my Indo-Malaysian tour, and I admit that during some outings, I would have liked to be with Linda again, the girl with whom I spent two days in Mabul and Sipadan. For lack of divers in my environment, I adapt to those I meet on a trip. There are good and not so good surprises & #8230;
    😉

    @Eric: Ah, I'm not 20 years old for a long time, and not yet 46 & #8230; But indeed, I do not travel quite the same way as during my very first trips (which were not solo, by the way).
    For my part, when I travel alone as I am doing now, I do not feel this melancholy, this sadness you are talking about. On the contrary, I feel that I am happily sharing my discoveries with other travelers I meet on the way. And also here on this blog, thanks to the magic of the internet. Moreover, my moments of loneliness have been rather rare in recent days. I did not have to eat alone more than 4 or 5 times during this one-month trip!
    Tonight, for the first time in a long time, on the eve of taking my flight back to Kuala Lumpur, I find myself alone at #8230; finally!!! It's good, too, to have moments to yourself.
    🙂

  29. Hello,

    I discover this blog, I poke a little & #8230; It's good to find a travel blog that does not boil down to a stack of travel photos! Just for that, thank you.
    I am still sailing & #8230; and I come across this very interesting discussion.

    Traveling alone & #8230; what happiness! The time is for oneself (even more than at home), no account to give, we let ourselves be guided by the encounters and the trend of the time. Like freedom, what? Or something that has to do with independence. In this case loneliness is not a lack but a wealth.

    But, traveling alone in Asia certainly opens the door to less meetings than when traveling alone. Yeah, white is often apprehended as a consumer of sex, often wrongly #8230; but unfortunately often too right.
    If it can encourage women to travel alone in Asia: you will meet more than men. Because the contact with the young women of the country when one is a man, it is more difficult; it takes more time to decline the massa-massa or boom-boom proposal. It is several days in the same place for the young woman to understand that this one, we can discuss with him. Of course, if you can not put three words in English, whether you're a man or a woman, it's a handicap. But to be told the country by men AND women who live there, it is still much richer education.
    I remember a meeting with an Australian in Cambodia in July 2008: she was traveling by bike and the locals wanted to help her. I imagine she has been invited many times to stay at home. No doubt a man in such a situation will have fewer opportunities to sympathize.
    So you have to travel alone & #8230; with his children. In Asia it is the foot, in Cambodia in particular. I recommend it to all dads with children. We will come to you to ask you where is the mother. It opens a lot of doors!

    The only downside to the solo trip: we would like to share some discoveries, some emotions with people we love. But share them instantly! And that's not possible. So we use internet, SMS, we create his blog & #8230; But it's not the same. For me these are the only frustrations felt during a trip alone (group travel I have not done and do not imagine for a moment, the only experience of the group abroad is a trek of Two days in Chiang Mai, it was very good indeed, I was very pleasantly surprised, but it was only two days). And it will be beautiful to show his travel photos (personally I do very little, the trip alone is also a set of secrets for itself), it is no longer the emotion of the moment. This is also why we must return & #8230;

    I read above that for a woman, traveling alone in a Muslim country gives a feeling of being nothing. But it's the same for a man who travels alone in a Muslim country when he is facing a veiled woman. It makes you feel uncomfortable. For that Thailand is much more pleasant, the Thais are very open minds, men and women.

    What I share most in your post, Corinne, is when you write that to travel alone is to know what to do with oneself, it actually helps for the life of all days. A girlfriend told me that my travels were to flee myself. No, it's to have a good time and also to get to know oneself better, to meet oneself in total. And maybe this meeting is the most important.

    Here, I stop. I do not know how to be short, that's how it is.
    Good trips, alone or in groups!

    Romuh

  30. @Romuh: Welcome to Little Bubbles Elsewhere, and thank you for this long and interesting contribution.
    😉

    I did not realize that it was perhaps easier to be a traveler than a solo traveler, finally, in some situations & #8230; But what you say about children, whether you are alone with them, or as a couple, is very true: it opens all the doors!

    For the impossibility of sharing on the very moment his emotions, I admit that it does not weigh me much. But no doubt it is a question of temperament. As for the pleasure of sharing after the fact, there are obviously the things I like to show publicly here, on this blog, and the exchanges that result, very rewarding; and then more personal things, which I keep for myself or my relatives.

    Finally, I do not think we can run away when we travel solo & #8230; it's the opposite, indeed, we find ourselves face to face. One may like or not experience & #8230; Again, it's a matter of temper, I guess.

    🙄

  31. Hello Corinne,
    I like your blog, which I discovered through the blog of Marie-Julie Gagnon. This post particularly appealed to me because I am also a solo traveler and I appreciate each time more this way of traveling. However, I felt compelled to react to some of the comments I read earlier about women traveling in Muslim countries and "who do not exist". In fact, for me, it's totally the opposite! In Egypt, Tunisia, Morocco, Senegal, I did not feel that I did not exist, on the contrary, but that I existed much more than elsewhere! Impossible for a Western woman alone to pass incognito in these countries! A single young woman attracts all eyes (men and women) and is constantly observed, solicited. It's rarely nasty, but it's usually cultures where young women are rarely single and independent, let alone traveling, so it's amazing. If in addition, the tourist in question is blonde (like me), she must expect to be the center of attention everywhere, at all times. It can sometimes be heavy, but some techniques are developed to attract less attention (wear loose clothing, a hat) and remove the jars of glue (pretending to speak only Danish, wear a false alliance, etc.). ). In fact, I was so used to being the center of attention in these trips that I was disappointed, once back in Montreal, that nobody looks at me or speaks to me! I made my first trips solo in the countries I mentioned above, as much as I learned the hard way! But these are the places in the world where I most felt that I existed. Here.

  32. @Josianne: Thank you for your testimony, very interesting. I'm not blonde, but I use the same tricks to keep away the possible (and rather rare, in my case) glue pots, I confess... 😆
    What you say is very fair: a woman traveling alone is much more interesting, especially in the more traditional areas, where the emancipation of women is not what we know in the West.
    I remember a long conversation I had with a Malaysian girl at the Tawau consulate in Borneo, who asked me a thousand enthusiastic questions, her eyes shining with curiosity and envy, telling me how much she would have liked be able to do like me, travel alone, see the country, meet people, freely & #8230;
    I measure my luck. And I try not to forget it, when, back in France, I cross only indifferent looks.
    😉

  33. hello Corinne Totally agree with you. I traveled alone for a long time backpacker for months, I even spent three months in the jungle of Borneo & #8230; All your arguments are right but sometimes being two makes things easier. One keeps the luggage while the other looks for the cheap hotel. Watch tower if you sleep in a station and then in case of big difficulties (it happens in very adventurous trips), two is better. In case of depression too (inevitable with the fatigue of 6 months of travel) And I also like to share great ecstasy in front of a landscape, people. I have been for 20 years with an adorable woman who likes to travel my way (off tour) and it goes really well and we had a lot of contacts with the people (Tibet, Africa, etc). And the presence of a woman makes me discover contacts with other women (more difficult for a single man). The hardest & #8230; it's back to #8230;
    good luck to you
    Jean Pierre

  34. @ Zantas51: Oh, but I'm not saying it's worse at two & #8230; Especially if you have a great complicity with your companion / travel companion. And it's true that it makes things easier in case of a glitch.
    My point is to say that we must not forbid ourselves to travel under the pretext that we are alone. It's actually a lot easier than you imagine, and often richer in dating. Many thanks for your testimony!
    🙂

  35. Hello,

    This discussion is not stopped and it is with great pleasure that I see it. The evening just happened is not the only reason.

    zantas51 wrote "And I also like to share great ecstasies in front of a landscape, people". This is actually the only element of frustration I have experienced in traveling alone. Sharing in your mother tongue a moment of "ecstasy" adds an emotional dimension to the trip. I found penelope25 in Cambodia, after various exchanges by mail during the preparation of our respective trips. I took her to an island that I had discovered 6 months ago; the sharing and sensitivity of the other, whose mother tongue is common, added a more undeniable.
    Complicity is born from this sharing; we had never met before.

    But of course the trip alone (or alone, if it is so different) brings a lot. And I'm not ready to put an end to it. To find oneself unique, to have only the local population to communicate and to continue, obliges to a very very enriching opening, to a not obliged, but necessary sharing. And agreeable.

    The aesthetic side is very important in this solo trip; stand out creates curiosity & #8230; and therefore the exchange. We may want to hide & #8230; or, on the contrary, to show oneself, it is according to.
    In Asia, Africa, South America, the blonde traveler will have an additional "difference", which can become as burdensome; My 8-year-old blue-eyed girl on her trip to Cambodia told me about it several times ("I was tired of them watching me all the time and Mr. Raga pinched my cheek"). It's up to her to play this difference or not.

    The language barrier also plays spontaneity, itself very instructive to the other. The aesthetic difference will favor or not, each situation creating an experience.

    One thought: Is the journey of a single woman or a man alone so different? Not sure. There is always a relationship of seduction to another. A single woman will be very pampered here, but despised there. Same for a single man, when the image of the European tourist is that of the consumer of sex. Money or individual respectful of one culture of the other? It is up to the native to ask himself the question, if he wishes.

    The difference in culture will result in a different adaptation time. If in Cambodia it is necessary to leave time to be offered things to eat (wait two hours in an overcrowded minibus), in Bangkok it will be only 5 minutes and a joke to be offered to taste an ice-cream. soft bread.
    The example of food is not exclusive, but it is, from my experience, the most glaring; "I eat like you, I accept you fully as you kill. "

    Admittedly, a good stomach plaster is sometimes necessary. thank you B & #8230; lix. I'm exaggerating, of course.

    To read you!

  36. @Romuh: I am delighted to see this discussion continue. Thank you for sharing your experience here again. Highly Relevant Observations & #8230;
    🙂

  37. I too love to travel alone. As you say, you can not find yourself alone, unless you lock yourself up at the hotel & #8230; I think it's great !
    On January 15th, I also go to Tioman, for the first time in Malaysia, then Australia, and back to Bali and Thailand.
    Strongly!

  38. After browsing this blog, myself preparing my first solo trip to Thailand, I thought (and that could be another interesting point to address): how resourceful he is to be able to manage everything solo & #8230 ;?
    I leave the floor to those who have lived the experience and have opinions to share... 💡

  39. I had heard the same sentences before closing my luggage. But I knew that I would not be afraid, that I would meet so many people on the road and take full view.
    The feeling of freedom is exhilarating.

    I feel I will always need to give me solo getaways far, far away.

    It also makes me realize how much I care about some people and that although far away, they are part of my balance.

    NowMadNow

  40. @EurAsia: Well, when traveling, it's like in life & #8230; If you are smart at home, you will also be elsewhere.

    @NowMadNow: I still don't understand what people are afraid of, at the idea of going solo... For my part, I find it almost easier and simpler to go alone... 😀
    Yes, the feeling of freedom is exhilarating. And then, we better measure what is important, what we are worth, who we are, once alone at the end of the world. The experience is wildly rewarding.

  41. @Boucline: Yes, for Indonesia, it's better to get by in English, or get into Bahasa (the basics are easy)! In Indonesia, very few people speak French. Only in the Toraja Country, on Sulawesi, where I met quite a few French speaking guides. And as for the rest of Southeast Asia, even in the former French colonies (Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia), it is easier to have exchanges in English than in French & #8230;

  42. I am delighted to have discovered this blog. I am preparing for a solo trip to Indonesia, and I wonder if not speaking English should stop me from traveling to Southeast Asia. It seems that we can manage in French in this corner of the country. What do you think?

  43. Me too I travel solo for a few years and the only thing I say to myself is: but why did not I do it earlier!

    Let's be clear, I do not want to apologize for the individual trip, I have traveled in couple or in a group, I do not deny it, but we each have our own story and it is now I travel alone, sometimes by choice, sometimes by obligation, often both at once.

    I must say that it took me some time to "take the plunge" and this is essentially under the pressure of an entourage whose behavior is often dictated by the spirit of herd.

    And when we listen to them, all the reasons are good not to go on an individual trip:

    -you are too young
    -you are too old
    -you are a woman
    -you are a man
    -you are a woman
    in Asia
    -you are French
    -you went
    & etc. #8230; & #8230; ..

    I think the most difficult was precisely this very first solo trip that I made where I had so many apprehensions because of the judgment of others, fears very quickly dissipated once there.
    Now with hindsight I join the people who wrote here before me to say that I have never made as many meetings as traveling alone.

    Couples and families traveling? Ben they exchange first between them before trading with "foreigners" and that's normal, I was like them before.

    The groups ? So it makes me a little fun, I myself traveled in a group, the band is welded from France, but once there is dislocated and everyone leaves on his side, officially because of "free neighborhood "Unofficially because X has no hooked atoms with Z, and in the end, there is no longer any difference with the solo traveler (and who declares himself as such from the start).
    It is often on these occasions that we measure our degree of affinity with so-and-so or so: the good roommate or the friendly and funny colleague with whom we spend 8 hours a day in the office to have fun, but who becomes another person when you have to share the bungalow and moods 24/7!
    The phrase "we would not spend our holidays together" is neither trivial nor usurped.
    The risk is greater when traveling abroad with compatriots, the fact of speaking the same language institutes privileged links and often misses many things.

    Well it's true I admit, sometimes during my solo trips in some situations I would have liked to be accompanied, it is the case at the beginning of certain excursions or during lunch when everyone is between couple or friends and you find yourself there like a ... without knowing who to talk to, but it never happened to me either very often or very long.
    Or again when you are told "I leave you I think my husband / wife is waiting for me" and you who answer very aptly "and I have my nasi goreng waiting for me" #8230; ".
    There are other purely material inconveniences as Corinne evokes, but brought back to the whole trip is really ridiculous.

    On my last trip to the Philippines, I went solo, I came back with friends there that I will be happy to see again on a future trip there and I met a couple of Belgians that I see again regularly in Paris and Brussels, and we are working on a future trip to do & #8230; together.

    1. Hello,

      Congratulations. Finally a girl who talks about true freedom. That which consists in being in congruence with oneself. Your last post dates a bit so I hope you continue to enjoy traveling with yourself.
      Good roads & #8230;
      Another aficionado of the solo trip.

  44. Super your post !! I discover it just today and recognize me completely in what you say. I also find it difficult to understand this astonishment compared to the girls who travel alone, so it seems natural to me to do it. And yet, I do not feel myself an adventurer or a daredevil, and I even have some tendencies to shyness & #8230; But what a pleasure to travel alone !! And I was lucky to meet incredible friends on the road. I have traveled a lot alone in Asia and South America, and absolutely recommend it. The only country where I really felt uncomfortable was South Africa. There is far too much insecurity, and this is not a country suitable for solo travel & #8230; But it's good for both guys and girls in my opinion.

  45. @Sarah: Yes, I think mentalities are hard to change. Many people believe that a chick should not travel alone. For the sake of propriety, security, what do I know again & #8230; I have a friend who traveled alone to South Africa, and it was worry free. She just did a little more blundering in some corners.

  46. I found very interesting your article.
    I admit that for me, traveling alone is a pleasure, even if the only problem is the evening meal when you are alone in front of your plate & #8230; but hey, as you noted, it does not happen often because we find someone.

    In my case, the hardest thing was to travel to India alone, not because of insecurity, but mainly because I was constantly being questioned by the annoying Indians at #8230; and in the long run, it was heavy.

    I even went on CT alone for a year with just 3 months with friends and I admit that I loved the alternation & #8230;

  47. @PEPS: Yes, it's nice to be able to alternate modes of travel, too. But frankly, loneliness never weighed me during my solo trips. While sometimes I found the heavy company on some occasions & #8230; But there is no rule or recipe. It depends on the circumstances, the temperaments. Just a question of balance, dosage, I guess. For my part, I find that the total freedom of the solo trip is still something quite exhilarating, never found so completely with a companion / companion.

  48. If you feel like it, Marie-France, I think you're capable of it! We often find out afterwards that we have a lot more courage than we thought. Go on a trip that's not too long, two or three weeks. I really recommend South-East Asia for a first solo travel experience, because these are countries where it's very easy to travel, with good security conditions, and with a lot of solo travellers. My first solo trip was to Vietnam. I had planned to stay one month, and as a result, I stayed two months, extending with Thailand, and I was never alone for a single second! I loved it, I loved it! An incredible experience! 🙂

  49. @MarieFrance: I share pretty well what Sarah writes.

    Listen to your desire, it is not a question of courage. In any case Sarah's advice is quite right: South-East Asia is very easy (those who go to difficult places in South-East Asia, it is those who decide, by refusal of the easy or by wanting to know "something else"). The most difficult is to decide to buy the plane ticket in accordance with the necessary leave period. And do not buy a tour package before you leave. Even if you "roll" on the spot, it will cost you less & #8230; But it will bring you a lot more contacts.

    One last thing: making a choice is taking a risk. The risk of regretting this choice because the weather was unfortunately pitiful during the trip, for example (very rare when we learn about the climate before). Or the risk of regretting all the time to have never dared.

    The choice is yours.

  50. Your post is so right, and motivates me even more to leave alone 🙂
    What you say about meeting new people, the freedom to do what you want without being under the constraint of "the other" and being more sensitive because "cut off" from its culture really resonate in me.
    The anecdote where you forget your ATM code has already arrived in France and seen as it is the galley here, I can hardly imagine how it was abroad.
    Article put in my bookmarks, direct 😉

    1. When I read your own post, on your desires for departure, I told myself that it could only comfort you in your urges and your aspirations & #8230; Without being a long-term traveler, I manage to organize regular getaways. There is nothing easier, in fact.
      8)

  51. Hi Corinne,

    First of all thank you for your blog that I discovered (almost) by chance: I start to take information for my next trip to the Philippines with I hope the Divemaster to the key.

    In reaction to this post I suggest you the book "Théorie du Voyage, poétique de la géographie" by Michel Onfray which has impelled my previous journey and of which I have reproduced some passages on my own blog. I think you'll like it if you haven't already read it 😉.

    Maybe I'll see you soon in another comment 🙄
    Yannick

  52. thank you Corinne
    I come from Quebec and I love to make sports trips .. marathon and trecking and of course to see the country.
    I have never traveled alone but maintaining life leads me to be alone and phew !! not easy but I imagine that the little stress of leaving alone is especially for the first trip .. my fears are to lose me and make bad meetings
    The places I would like to go are France and Italy is this good for a first
    thanks to you
    chantal

    1. @Chantal: I do not know if France and Italy are "good" for the first time alone. It all depends on your desires to you & #8230; I think that any destination is "good". Make yourself happy, go to places that attract you. For the rest, as I always say, it's a matter of common sense. You do not risk more to make bad meetings than in the life of every day & #8230; No need to stress !!!
      🙄

  53. Ah thank you for this article! I stumbled upon it, and it feels good to read all these positive messages about the solo trip!
    I'm going to Scotland (let's not go too far to start 😛 ) for my first solo trip, in one month and ... I'm shocked ! I may be 22 years old, but I'm not very reassured and I hope this trip will cure me of that 😆
    To tell the truth, I am especially afraid to eat alone & #8230; It's rather futile as scared but I do not know it's so much a time we usually share, or do in a known place & #8230;
    Finally, always is it that this article boosts me to de-stress! Thank you very much !
    And I'm glad to see you write for the newspaper I read every day =D I'll look for your name next time hey 😀
    Good continuation !

    Margot

    1. @Margot: no need to stress, everything will be fine. Take with you a book, a little notebook to write, or a newspaper, when you go to eat somewhere alone. But if it is, you will not often eat alone, we meet easily when we travel solo & #8230;

      As for Ouest-France, I am now working for the website, so I write much less for paper & #8230;
      😉

      Good preparations and good trip !!!
      8)

  54. Hello Corinne,
    It's a pure delight to read you!
    Well, I know this article is from 2009, but I recently added you on twitter and I just discovered your blog & #8230;
    I must say that going solo is really the best thing to do!
    Well I'm not going to Asia and I haven't done any diving either (since I have a blue fear of fish) 😕 , but I visited the south of France last month and loved it!
    Do what you want when you want, it's great!
    No compromise to make, only to please yourself!
    For the next trips, I plan to go back alone! 😀
    All the feelings you describe, I felt them too #8230;
    I live in Montreal and I read your article about poutine in the ice and it is true that it is good! In Nice, there is a restaurant called Quebec and I tasted their poutine, it was different hihi, but still good!
    Good continuation

    1. @Roxanne: A thousand thanks for taking the time to leave a message, so nice! Yes, it's been three years since I wrote this article, but it is still relevant for me & #8230; Around me, even today, few people share or understand my persistent taste for solo travel. On my last trip (to New York, late May), I was not alone, though. I vary the pleasures too.
      😉
      The bottom line is that everyone finds the way to travel that best suits their temperament!

      As for Montreal, yes, I hope to return a day later to offer me a solid and authentic poutine!
      😀

    2. I just noticed that you rewrote me... 🙂
      Reading your blog is a journey in itself and I thank you for it! We can feel your passion 🙂 I also thank you for taking the time to add lots of links to other blogs 🙂 , I feel like I'm not done reading travel stories yet! Ah and your photos are sublime! See you soon!

  55. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who loves solo trips! 🙂 Thanks for this article 😉
    A few days ago, I was alone for 2 days at Disneyland Paris: it's easier to have a place in a restaurant often crowded when you're alone ^ ^ And then too bad if people look at me oddly & #8230;

  56. Good evening Corinne,

    Thank you for this post, it gives me the boost I needed to go alone. Reading this discussion, I was conquered.

    I would like to leave, for the first time, only autumn 2013 in Asia, and I was just asking the question: what countries to do?
    I would like to start with India, go through Laos, Cambodia Thailand and end with Bali.
    I would like to go 2 months, see more & #8230; But my question is how to organize my trip?
    Take a round trip or just a go and then get by?
    Lots of questions go through me and I'm a little lost & #8230;
    If you have any advice to give me, please, they are welcome!

    Thank you again for sharing your experiences

    Ryme

    1. @Ryme: which countries do? How to organize the trip?
      I do not know, on such broad questions, the answers are different for everyone. It all depends on your budget, your desires & #8230; The best is to develop a route in bulk, but with enough flexibility to possibly change things along the way & #8230;
      Good preparations!
      🙂

  57. Very good article is true that you tell me the problem is that I do not speak at all English and abroad it may complicate no?

    1. This is a fake English problem,
      You just have to do like 3/4 of the French people who think they speak English, you pronounce the vocabulary you lack in French but with an English accent and as people in Asia are very well brought up they will act as if they understood you 😉

      The second trip will be less bad and so desuite!

      ps: I have my tickets for DPS, thank you (a little bit anyway) to Corinne!

    2. @Dubois: it is sure that English, it allows to communicate more easily, with locals as with other travelers. That said, it's never too late to get started, as Yannick suggests a little further up #8230;
      😉

  58. At the solo traveler. I am also a solo traveler and I had the same concerns and question about traveling alone.
    I think what is normal for a man and suspect for a woman.
    I think it's the beliefs and fears of these people that is in their culture of education.
    It is fine when they are tolerant, but others are very unpleasant in their words and attitudes under the pretext that we are alone. 🙄
    Sorry for my spelling I did not do a lot of
    French.
    I will follow you on twiter.

  59. Hello,
    I am a charlotte, I am 23 years old. I finished my studies this year and decided to leave alone 7 months in South America (Costa Rica, Ecuador, Peru, Bolivia, Argentina) & #8230; I reconcile missions of social volunteering and travel & #8230;
    I am worried because, even if I have been alone while traveling, I have never been so far alone but especially without a secure environment (internship, & #8230;).
    Currently, I am making the final preparations because my departure is September 20th. I really have trouble being zen & #8230; Even if I am convinced that I would meet many people, I dread to be alone for site visits for example because, alone, I appreciate but I like to share also & #8230;
    In fact, I love to travel alone for all the positive aspects mentioned above but I'm afraid to travel alone... It's a bit strange what I say but I apprehend a lot and it makes me feel good to say it, I'll be traveling alone during the holidays (Christmas and New Year's Day) and that also worries me... being alone for those moments... I don't know how it will be... I imagine that once we get to San José (CR) it will be better... thanks for your reading and if you have a little word of energy for me and I'll take it with me, I'll be happy to take it. 🙄

    1. @Charlotte: I do not know at all Latin America, but your project looks attractive! You make a fixation on being alone, but I am convinced that you will find yourself much less alone than you imagine it to be #8230; We do not stop to meet people and to sympathize with people while traveling.
      Good preparations !!! 8)

  60. Hello everyone, and congratulations for this blog very well done.
    Ladies, you say what is normal for a man is not for a woman. Well, no, for a man too, traveling alone sometimes brings suspicion, even suspicion. Not to mention the number of "marriage proposals" after one hour of discussion !! But it is nothing in comparison with true and strong moments of humanity shared.

    1. @serge: thank you for sharing your experience here! And for marriage proposals, we are also well served as solo travellers... 😆

  61. Hello everyone, Corinne,
    Having followed the link of Romain that I savored during his TDM, I curl up on yours, and thus bring my stone to the building on solo trips, and sometimes alone.
    Because without philosophizing, alone, it sometimes induces that it is also in the head & #8230;
    So I left on a whim on January 1st by having woken up my future wife the day I bought the ticket, the previous October, at 1am in the morning 🙂 in Brazil and Argentina.
    What is noteworthy is that this unbearable blues moment has given me the strength to realize my dream of going to see the Iguaçu Falls located between these two countries. So during this stay, where I was gone bruised, I was, in default with the others, in harmony with the nature of this corner of the world and more generally with the environment.
    Equipped with a notebook, I compensated my pain with these words that replaced others (ill for those who are a little lost .. :))

    I do not say that I am cured, I say that to cross the threshold of reasonableness to accede to the pleasure, to the ultimate wish, whatever that representation is really tangible than alone.

  62. Hello Corinne,

    Super this blog, I take advantage of my week of vacation to inform me about my next destination & #8230; In reading these exchanges I wish to share my experience. Like you, I've visited most of Asia solo and I've been going for two or three years to new skies. Discovering a country completely independently is great, to learn about yourself and to live with others.

    But here is the "security" aspect that you develop in this post does not really reflect my experience, actually in Asia, there is not much risk for a woman traveling alone, in fact no more than for a man. CB loss or backpacking are situations that can happen in France, so we all know how to react.

    Much more traumatic experiences have happened to me in South America and the Middle East, I do not want to mention the countries in question because they are very touristic countries and that does not reflect the totality of my experience as well than the memory I want to keep.

    For people who like me have difficulties to take the step (or can not anymore) I discovered last summer a travel agency offering an alternative between the freedom of solo travel and the security of the trip "group ". I do not know if it is possible to put a commercial link but here is the site is called http://www.myadventour.com I find the concept and state of mind endearing solidarity tourism and interesting co-traveler spirit & #8230;

  63. Hello,

    your text is really great! I am about to leave in 2 weeks alone for 7 months and to read you reassured me a lot. People around me often try to discourage me for fear but I'm good! I wanted to know where it was the place where you took the last picture, that of the two faces!

    Thank you

    1. Marie-Eve: Yeah, don't get discouraged and do your own thing. You will surely be enriched by this experience... 😉

      The faces you are talking about are actually four (from this angle, we only see two). It is in Cambodia, near Siem Reap, on each of the entrance gates of the site of Angkor. The faces are oriented towards four cardinal points.

      You can find at the end of the links below other photos taken during my various trips there:

      In 2011 : http://petitesbullesdailleurs.fr/voyage-cambodge-thailande-2011/

      In 2003 : http://www.southeastasia.fr/05_cambodge_thailande_2003/01_cambodge2003/index.php

      In 2001 : http://www.southeastasia.fr/03_vietnam_laos_cambodge_2001/03_cambodge2001/index.php

      🙄

  64. Great article! I have travelled a lot with foreign friends since I have been living in Finland, but I am thirsty to travel alone in my home cities (Liverpool and Stockholm) because I would like to test myself, a kind of initiatory trip in itself 🙂 People already find it courageous that I am going abroad for a year for my studies, but for me the real courage will be to go alone. I will be able to do it, I'm just waiting for the right timing. Thanks for this article again! 😉 😉

    1. @Ydie: You just have to take the first step. It makes you realize if you're comfortable or not, just with yourself... 😉

  65. Solo travel, I'll have to put myself: by dint of waiting for my friends are willing, want to go to the same place as me and / or have the same budget, I do not do anything that I would like to do !
    And yet, what are I afraid of! Me who is afraid of everything, leaving alone it terrifies me & #8230; Because I'm scared to confront myself and my emotions in case of letting go!
    Still, I'm seriously thinking about Thailand for March, a week to start slowly... So I'm going to browse your blog to see if I can catch some good advice 🙂
    Thank you

  66. Hello Corinne,

    I am celibat recently and I always traveled with a partner & #8230; By cons, reading this cronic & #8211; Traveling solo, I think it must be a fascinating experience to travel alone and discover all that a new country can offer us in terms of wealth and culture & #8230; on the other hand, I was as certain & #8230; fearful and not able to enjoy these beautiful things. Anyway, this text just reassured me and I decided that I will leave for the first time alone & #8230; this summer or next winter (to see and plan) & #8230; .Thank you Corinne, your article was an inspiration and came looking for what I was looking for & #8230; Who knows, I will become a bit of a bit of that kind of trip!
    Have a good day
    Henri B

    1. @Henri B: yes, just take the step once, to realize that it is not very difficult, to travel alone & #8230; I love traveling solo, but I also enjoy traveling for two. These are not quite the same pleasures.

      That said, in solo, one feels, I find, a kind of intoxication, freedom, very pleasant, which transforms and amplifies further the sensations of the voyage & #8230; Afterwards, it may also be a question of temperament.

      Anyway, glad to give you the desire to try a departure!
      🙂

  67. I'm in Korea for an academic exchange and I plan to take advantage of the end of the semester to do some tourism in Southeast Asia. I'm thinking of going alone because no one seems to be an "adapted travel companion" here (no desire to ruin my escapades because of people who will want to do this or that, be too tired to walk, not get up too early, etc...) and your article reassures me about going on my own 🙂
    Thank you !

    1. @ Celine: but yes, nothing more pleasant than Southeast Asia for a single girl & #8230; You should come back happy!
      🙂

  68. Thank you for this article. 😉
    It's been two years since I wanted to visit Sweden and see the midnight sun in June. However, none of my friends are starting (they are all in a couple & #8230;). This year, I decided to leave, alone, to discover the big cities. But then, when I told my family, who knew more or less that I wanted to go to Sweden, that I wanted to go alone, here are the reactions I was entitled to:
    "But you go alone? But it's dangerous. And where are you going to sleep? & #8230; In youth hostel, but it's not going well! "
    (and when my mother asks my big sister, yet a great traveler - with friends or as a couple - what she thinks of my plan to travel alone, here is her answer: "Oh, well, it's sure that even I do not do it, and then it's useless to travel alone. ")
    So here, I feel a little helpless. I really want to discover the south coast of Sweden. But I do not know if I could manage to face the criticisms of my family & #8230; Maybe like last year, I will postpone the project of a year and will leave in group, in France, (because the group trips abroad are overpriced for the student I am). And then, I had made the idea to travel alone & #8230;

    1. @Sosso: Sweden, dangerous ???? Let's go good & #8230; You would go to Syria, I do not say. But in Sweden ???
      🙄
      If I may, do not let yourself be influenced by what others think and do the right thing.

      Try the experience of the solo trip, and there, you will really know, whether or not, "it's bad to travel alone" or if on the contrary it's great, and if it suits your temperament or not & #8230; Short. The best is to try to be able to make your own opinion. No ?
      😉

  69. Hello Corinne. What a pleasure to read you this morning typing "Solo trip in Thailand" .. During 30 years I have never traveled alone and last February I decided to leave alone in India, where I have already been 6 times & #8230; .This was my best trip, that beautiful encounters & #8230; to the point that I took a liking, encouraged by this beautiful experience and I would like to leave this autumn in Thailand solo & #8230; I discovered myself much more than all along of my years here with family, couple & #8230, thank you for your so positive comments!

    1. @Bapouji: that, I must say that me too, my solo trips were the most beautiful, the strongest, the richest, the most outstanding & #8230;

      However, I know that the solo trip does not necessarily fit everyone. I have a friend who travels often, sometimes alone, sometimes with another person. But she, who has experienced these different types of travel, she prefers to be two. She finds it better. Me no. And she has a hard time grasping what makes me so vibrate in the solo trip & #8230; Question of temperament, no doubt.

      In fact, like you, since I tasted the pleasures of solo travel, I find them much better than those of the trip for two or in a group & #8230; But this idea is not easy to admit or understand.

      So I tried to restore my feelings, my experience, in this article. And given the number of comments he has raised since it is online, I see that I'm not an alien and I'm not so "weird" that it! Many of us have traveled solo and found the experience so much stronger, more interesting, and richer in dating & #8230;
      🙄

  70. Hello,
    Super article, I think more and more to go on a trip alone!
    For the moment I plan to spend ten days in Ireland, so as not to go too far right away, but the idea that I'm going alone really doesn't please my family, who find it too dangerous, and I confess that I'm not too reassured myself. And above all I'm afraid of not being able to meet people, I'm naturally rather shy and I have a lot of difficulty to go to others, so I'm afraid not to see the "beautiful encounters" side, new friends of solo trips ... 😳

    1. Hi Lou, I've just read all these great testimonials, and I find myself a little bit in this one, torn between the desire to take this challenge, and fear because shy too... 🙁
      I see that your message dates from June did you advance in your idea? ongoing projects? Would you be tempted by the idea of going to 2 "alone" rather than organized group?

  71. Hello Lou.
    I understand all the more your apprehensions that your family is not reassured. So his fear and your fear are a lot of fears. I do not know your age, but if deep down inside you really want to travel solo, discover a lot of things by yourself, breathe deeply, try to let go of your mind and the fears that go around it and go on a journey, open to what presents itself, without being naive, and choose destinations that appeal to you & #8230; Oses and you will tell us your experience! & #8230; Bon voyage

  72. Hello ! I do not know if this forum is still active but I found it very interesting.
    I decided to leave alone in South India and at 2 weeks of departure I freak out, knotted stomach, hard to eat & #8230; and I am a man! it will be my first solo trip and my first trip so far. The furthest I did is Turkey with 2 friends.

    At the beginning of the project I had only positive thoughts then India started to scare me and now I almost want to backtrack. Yet I would really like to try the experiment but I am afraid of how I could react and I doubt very much! I'm afraid of not having the basics of traveling and inflicting something too big, too exotic and that I could not manage alone. At the same time I am naturally anxious but I always wanted to do that, first because on paper it makes me dream and then because I want to overcome this anxiety and prove to me that I am able. but I doubt #8230;

    1. Nico & #8230; .That you have apprehensions before going to India for the first time and only one is normal & #8230; So be reassured! & #8230; .. I have been there 7 times and I will return there & #8230; My 2 solo trips were the most beautiful, because I went there open to accommodate what was happening..The south is sweeter than the north and the scenery is beautiful & #8230; .How long have you planned to go there? & #8230; Have you considered destinations? & #8230; & #8230; Go cool, you will see many smiles, colors, sun and Indian are beautiful! Have a nice trip

    2. I have 5 months available but I do not know if I would stay so much. I arrive in Cochin, I planned to stay a little because it looks peaceful and after I wanted to go to munar, madurai, can be goa and pondicherry.
      But I started to be scared when I decided to watch reports. I started to be afraid of being pommed not to spot me, not knowing how to find cybert cafe etc & #8230 ;. I imagined myself alone without a marker, arriving in an environment beyond me. I wonder what I would hang on to once, how to get out of a city that oppresses me? #8230; for example after a report on tiruvannaralai, in the south so I said, if India is that, I think I could not. The problem is everyone around me know that I'm leaving, that I have already taken plane ticket, vaccine, insurance etc. & #8230; I oscillate between moments of relaxation and stress but I admit that after viewing reportage, my project, leaving alone to visit India, seems surreal.
      What do you think ? which place would be more suitable for me?

    3. Do you think that once I'm down I'll get out of it, I'll adapt and I'll get over it?

    4. It is true that 5 months for a first stay, alone and not knowing you reassured, seem to me long #8230; .. Expect perhaps a shorter stay. If it interests you, stay in ashrams (I know Anandashram very beautiful north of Cochin - there is a nice video, and Amma's ashram in the south of Kerala), you will meet nice people, then go to Pondicherry to Auroville & #8230; By giving you a few travel goals, you will find more meaning and less apprehensions & #8230; & #8230;

  73. Thank you for your advice ! I was reassured a little bit wanting to actually do Cochin and Pondicherry, set me goals, with shorter trip, but even with that the pressure was too strong! So I decided to change my destination.

    At the beginning I could not separate things from the fear, normal, caused by the imminence of the departure of a first solo trip, and the fear of finding myself in India very brewing country, on the other . But I finally realized that I chose India on "we say", dreamy stories but without documenting myself before deciding! I just realized that for my first solo trip, India was too much. I had not found any forum where someone was saying that he had gone to India for a True first solo trip (the furthest I went to is Turkey!) And as long as I could not inflict this on myself . I had too much to try to convince myself by putting myself in the skin of the super adventurer but the concrete took over (probably for the better). Adventurer, yes I am, yes I want to be and I can be. But not in India for the first time. But I'll go someday, that's it!

    So I started looking for new destinations for "low budget", and I decided
    to go to Vietnam, Laos and Cambodia That good reviews, beautiful landscapes (I love) and recommended for first solo trips, obviously quite secure too. This gave me the excitement of the trip, which had completely evaporated in favor of the fear of India (something was wrong!)
    I still have apprehensions, but this time it seems normal to me again, and manageable on the spot. Less fear of being completely disturbed by the noise, the dirt, the poverty, the crowd, and not to find myself there! all while maintaining the change of scenery!
    I really had to choose my destination more carefully, I was a little too much in my adventure trip, not enough in the concrete country where I went!

    So everything has to do again, but it seems to me playable if I leave a month.
    I would have bought a plane ticket for nothing! Too bad, it's only 400th and the rest of my efforts are still useful (vaccine, insurance and company).
    It's also how we get to know each other!

    I stop there my novel! If this experience can serve some people, so much the better, otherwise it will still be good to talk about it on a great forum!

    In any case, thank you Joseph for having had the patience to interest you in the state of mind of a future traveler a little lost! Do not hesitate to give me advice if you have any!

    1. Nico..I think your decision is wise & #8230; .Give yourself some highlights of your planned itinerary, trust yourself and discover for yourself and do not let yourself be influenced by the experiences of others.

  74. Many girls do not have your courage, bravo! I totally share your point of view but I find it unfortunate that many girls are afraid to do so. I hope your article will help a lot and even boys too because there are some who do not dare either!

  75. Hello everyone, and thank you for all these beautiful sharing experiences.

    Even though this article is dated (2009!), I can not prevent #8217; Many thanks to Corinne for this very reassuring information, which confirms me in the idea that I have certainly made the right choice. I leave alone at the end of March for almost four months between Laos and Thailand, first solo trip, first trip out of Europe and first trip for such a long time (which is, paradoxically, so short at the time & #8230 ;!)

    I am 22 years old, and I will be spending my 23rd birthday in Laos, normally. Some small anxieties, but I think that excitement, curiosity and joy take over. In any case, in case of small doubts, articles like this are the best remedies. Thank you again, and I wish very nice moments to all travelers, to all travelers, solo & #8230; or not !

    Alice

  76. Hello Corinne. I read your article with interest, but can not get over my fears about a possible 6-month trip to Asia alone. First of all because I would like to start with India (I like it a lot) and that it seems to me that it is still a little dangerous? Secondly, even in Malaysia, during a trip as a couple, I felt a little uncomfortable to be staring at myself no matter where I go (certainly because I'm tall, blond and skin-bound Claire). I say to myself that it's going to be hellish in India at once & #8230; Do you think it's really possible, even in India, to travel alone?
    Thank you for your help, and congratulations for your blog!
    Clear

    1. Hi, clear! I have just returned from an Asian trip of 4 months solo.
      I asked myself a lot of questions before my departure (way too much) and I also wanted to start with India! My advice, if you have the time and money, is to start with Southeast Asia (Laos Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam) (perso big crush for Laos) and see how you are 'feel it. You will have the opportunity to meet people who have gone to India, who will be able to talk to you about it, you will be "briefed" and then you will have the time to put yourself at ease on the journey and to acclimatize Asia (the people are lovely, they feasted me)! You will quickly understand that all your apprehension is only the result of projections of your mind and that they have no value in reality. CA never happens as we imagine, I am well placed to know! I was very stressed at the idea of leaving alone and now when I think I laugh and I want to go back and solo!

      After me, I changed India for Southeast Asia and I do not regret it, according to all the people who tell me about it, you have to be prepared, to know what you're doing. commits because India is an experience more than a trip, according to all travelers. Me now I want to go (I would have gone if I had more money for the plane), but I'm happy to have started my experience in South East Asia.
      So if it's possible for you, start with Thailand and get india after you're immersed in the trip! Indeed, I did not go, but some things that are told about India are true. The noise, the crowd, the smell, the poverty, the beggars, the thefts, the looks moved towards the western blondes with blue eyes. But it's not hell, you just have to be able to do with it and let go. Can not be stupid and wear mini skirt and sexy tank top! Except this, it looks magical! Level security is not dangerous, just do not be naïve, like everywhere, but if you ask yourself these questions is that you are not, so everything is fine! After that if you are well documented, that you spoke to people who went there, that you really want to go there first, then go ahead even if you will necessarily have apprehensions! Then if you do not like it you fly to Laos !!! that's good, you will not listen to your feeling! Up to you !
      Enjoy, the trip is the real life! And when we have crossed the threshold, we realize that we are much stronger than we believe!

  77. Hello, it's been a while since I read you regularly!
    I often leave alone and I encourage all your readers not to hesitate! It's always great!
    Last summer in Nusa penida, early in the morning I was walking on the beach and 😉 talking a bit indo with a fisherman's wife, she finally handed me her cake when she heard my belly rumbling!
    I'm flying to Thailand in 2 weeks and I'm a little inspired by your last trip for my scouting! -) Mercissss

  78. Hello,
    Finally, I feel less alone & #8230; !
    Yes indeed if one must wait to have a companion, or to be married etc. one will never do anything & #8230;
    Myself, despite my handicap, (low
    vision) I go alone regularly and I do not
    better for me & #8230;
    I went to Montreal three times and I
    still remember my apprehension when
    I had to withdraw money from a dab & #8230;
    Today when I go to Montreal, I am
    like at home & #8230;
    I would have a hard time traveling differently & #8230;
    It is true that we do a lot more meetings especially today I use carpool a lot & #8230;
    Thank you all for your comments and Corrine for this blog & #8230;
    Indeed, as Corrine must, it is very painful these taxes on solo travelers & #8230 ;.

  79. hello i read your story and i find you brave, independent & #8230; And as I read you, I tell myself why not me.
    it's been a long time that I want to start and travel alone but seriously I'm afraid and I lack courage being shy in nature, it does not help me.

    What advice did you give me because I want to go alone, so start off nice. Even for a weekend. There are many things to discover in this world. 😆 8)

    1. @Orlimurphy: Well, you already have your answer, start with a weekend, not too far, to see. Like a nice city like Barcelona, or London, or any other city or place not too far, which attracts you. Try to better understand what is scary, to play down all that.

  80. Hello. I had posted two years ago, it's nice to see that this thread still lasts .. I'm leaving, alone, in February March in the Philippines, I promise you a little return.
    She is not beautiful life?

  81. Hello,

    I'm not afraid to travel alone because you're never alone for long 😉
    The only question I ask myself is: When you are alone especially when you do a lot of water activity, we often go to sea etc & #8230; where do I leave my important business (credit card, passport & #8230;)? Obviously not on the beach but in the guesthouse it makes me a little afraid (flight). So no one to keep that. I thought about the safe but not everyone has one, especially when it's really cheap.
    Regards,
    Sandy

  82. Thank you for this post & #8230;
    I think more and more to leave alone because to travel even with girlfriends poses many constraints & #8230;
    and for this first solo trip (well if I decide, because I'm still a little afraid & #8230 ;.) I chose South Africa & #8230; .With the menu National Parks and dives for 3 weeks & #8230; In fact what annoys me the most is driving alone, I know that on the camps etc there will be no problem but it is to go from point A to point B which annoys me & #8230; I do it in France without worries but at each point, I find friends & #8230; there I am a little afraid of being lost, of being bored on the road & #8230; etc.
    Anyway thank you, I will follow your blog with great attention now 🙂.

  83. Simply THANK YOU for this great article !!

    I discover your blog totally by chance because I'm about to create mine before I go to Indonesia in a little less than 2 months and I'm looking to make a nice blog like yours.

    Just like you I am a woman and I decide to go alone to discover Indonesia and Thailand for 6 months. It is with a big smile that I read what you wrote because my entourage and the people to whom I speak of my trip take me clearly for a crazy unconscious !!! haha !!

    Your article makes me feel good and gives me even more courage and the desire to be there. I will really enjoy sharing with you and enjoying your experience before leaving. This is my first big trip, I am 25 years old and do not speak English fluently & #8230; I manage but I lack vocabulary & #8230; The travelers I spoke to told me that it would not be a problem but hey I do not really know what to expect.

    I arrive in Jakarta on May 1st and stay only at night, then Bali direction where I will spend a few days to then reach Flores and stay there at least a month or more & #8230; I intend to do everything on land and boat and hope that I will not have too much difficulty. For now I have not planned my trip more than that but I still have a little time to organize all that.

    Well, here I am not going to tell my life either, but I wanted to ask you two questions:
    & #8211; What did you do with your site? WordPress? And is it within the reach of someone like me who does not have "big" IT skills?

    & #8211; In your articles I could see that you often had a driver? Is this the easiest way to move? If so how do you do it? (I mean where do you find your drivers & #8230; I have the permit otherwise I might be able to rent a car ?!)

    Well it's true it's a lot more than 2 questions but the others came in the same time 🙂 Thanks in advance for your answers and thanks again for this article, I came across it by chance but I'm sure it's not a coincidence 😉

  84. This is encouraging because I made a reservation to go to Malaysia for 10 days solo that I hesitate to start especially that I have not found friends leaving for the adventure thank you

  85. Hello,

    A great site that I just discovered preparing my world tour alone (land not sailing).

    Paul Valerie was wrong, a man alone is not a man in bad company.
    Traveling solo whether one is a man or a woman always surprises others. Moreover, when one is single and that one announces his departure for a destination, the question which returns often is: "you leave with whom? "

    "Well, why? We are not going to stop traveling because we have nobody on hand. I understand that some people do not like to go alone, bringing loneliness with oneself is a burden we should not be burdened with. However, I would say to everyone to still take this weight because the regrets could be worse.

    I am a man and traveling alone in some places can sometimes be the cause of irrational fears or real worries. Like everywhere. Like everywhere because we expose ourselves more than usual.

    But to all those who dare not go alone, I would tell them that in any case we are born and we die alone. And yes, we were usually alone in the belly of our mother, we are alone on the throne, alone in our bed a big part of our lives, alone in front of our copy at school, alone in the shower. We do thousands of things alone.

    Unintentional solitaries, insociable or not, those who can not force the meeting with the other will inevitably find themselves quite alone on vacation or on the other side of the world, but it is quite certain that they will meet more people than in their daily lives.

    So go ahead, go see the world if you can, this world can be at your door here in France, elsewhere in Europe or on another continent, but go for it and come back such Ulysses, happy after a nice trip.

  86. Hello, I just discovered your site. For my part I have never made a real trip outside France. But I wanted to share with you my very little experience.
    Mom of two big boys, I always left with my little family on vacation, never far, just on the small coast of the Vendée, we had 2 hours of road only.
    My situation having changed, my two big children took flight, I decided to think much more to me.
    I amazed my family, I went on vacation alone in Cassis in the lower France, only I made 16 hours of road, I took my time, I saw beautiful landscape. In Cassis to see the creeks, I enjoy hiking with people I did not know but we sympathized and ends at the restaurant. (Yet I am shy). It's true, it's not a big trip but for me it's huge. The solo vacation is great. I find it unfortunate that hotels do not think about their rates for solo travelers. Staying solo is the most difficult thing financially and it's a shame. It's a great adventure for me and I have a great memory.

    1. @Sophie: thank you for your testimony, very interesting. The pleasure of the solo trip is for both near and far destinations & #8230; Nice to hear that you enjoyed the experience! A first step is taken, one would say. And you will probably have less apprehension, now, from alone, in France or elsewhere & #8230; 8)

  87. I read more and more apologies of the solo trip & #8230; And I say to myself more and more "why not? ! Thank you for these small consciences that will eventually convince me to throw myself into the water!

  88. A very nice article.
    I have not yet had the opportunity to go totally alone for a trip but this project is now trotting in my head. It must not be the same for a man as for a woman but after all this idea of total freedom is so enticing that this article has comforted me on the fact of leaving alone.
    It's a new vision of travel that I like. 🙄

  89. Hi Corinne,
    Very good article that really summarizes the trip solo, it's good to be able to motivate people to travel more often alone especially women. I also went through this moment when I was trying to get discouraged because a young woman in backpack is supposed to say a lot of things, but we just risk being in front of ourselves and again when we find the time among all these meetings . Now, I'm faced with another type of question: How do you travel with a baby? It's not dangerous? I think every person should test this experience at least once in their life! Thank you for your article!

  90. Super article that I hope will give ideas to many.
    Me too I travel alone and even if I am a man it can happen to me the same problem as you with almost with less advantage because people go more to a single woman than a man.
    Enjoy

    1. @Emilyz: Yes, everything is stronger, sharper, more striking. At least that's how I feel, personally. But not everyone shares that point of view. Other people tell me that the journey is blander and less interesting if there is no one to share it with... We are all different! 🙂

  91. As a girl and adventurer, I am happy to follow a blogger who shares the same principles. To listen to my entourage, my last 5 years would be so monotonous. Going alone, far away, discovering others to discover oneself was my teenage dream. Since then, I live a dream. No day is bland, so many meetings and exchanges! Keep going corinne.
    Julie

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